Biblical womanhood, christian lifestyle, Modesty

How to choose Modest apparel

For this is God’s will: that you become holy, that you keep away from sexual immorality, that each of you know how to possess his own body in holiness and honor, not in lustful passion like the Gentiles who do not know God. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4. NET)

If you haven’t read my post on how I dress as a Christian woman then you should also check that out because this post is just going to be about how to choose modest apparel.

Now, I know that there are a lot of “white washed” women out here but that doesn’t justify vanity or lack of discretion. Because either way,  a woman who is truly holy and God fearing will not present her body in a provocative (or worldly) manner.

Generally speaking , the outward appearance really is a reflection of the sanctification process that’s taking place within. I am a witness to this! I started dressing different because my MIND changed about what I used to believe was cute or appropriate for godly women. This is just one of the ways we are transformed by the renewing of our minds. Only then can we truly tell whether we are dressing appropriately or not.

 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. (Romans 12:1-2)

It’s like how is it that we think that we’re so set apart when we look (and behave!) just like the women of the secular world. It’s because we’re deceived! And I remember being in that place, not even considering the fact that my clothes didn’t match my profession (which was that I was a Christian woman who knew God). Looking back I can admit that I was all talk. Obviously, I did not know God or have His spirit because if I did, I wouldn’t have been so comfortable dressing raunchy and provocative.

But again, this post isn’t about the way I dress. I believe that we need to leave our own personal convictions (or decisions) out of the equation lest we cause division. Therefore, I’m just giving you some things to consider in general as you get dressed as a “Kingdom Ambassador”.

Because that’s the thing,  if anything, we are to be exalting God, not our clothing! If you are still trying to express yourself through “fashion” then you are still a little immature. And that just real.  That immodest heart (and mindset!) is all about emulating others and worshiping Self. It’s about drawing attention from men (and other women!) to your body and sexuality.  It is about trying to be beautiful and desirable when you are should be continuously dying to yourself (your will and desires). On the contrary, true Modesty is about humbling ourselves and exalting God. It’s about honoring our body (which is God’s temple), other people (especially other people’s marriages and children) and the scriptures. I can still be feminine without being vain or inappropriate. In fact, godly femininity doesn’t even require all of that.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)

If I really want to dress Modesty then the Bible tells me exactly how to do that. We are even told what to “put on” spiritually!

  • This I say, therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles walk, in the futility of their mind, having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart; who, being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness. But you have not so learned Christ, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness. (Ephesians 4:17-20)
  • Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy.  But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts. (Romans 13:13-14)
  • Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.  (Colossians 3:12-14)

So after we start there, we can began to assess whether or not our physical clothing is appropriate.  You may even find yourself  shopping at different places then you would normally. I am 5’9 and I weight about 135 pounds so right now, in the current state of this world, the only place I can find modest apparel for my body type is at the goodwill.

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Me getting ready to see if I can find a “new” skirt or two!

Eventually I plan on making my own clothes but for now this is where I shop and STILL I have to check myself. When choosing the right apparel it can be very helpful to ask yourself things like:

Why do I like this shirt, skirt or dress (etc.)?

Am I at peace with it or am I indecisive?

Does this cost too much?

Do I find self worth or value in designer items? Do labels puff me up? Would I feel some type of way wearing cheap or resale clothes?

What type of people usually wear these prints or trends (etc)? Am I emulating celebrities or will I be associated with ungodly groups of people?

Am I seeking the admiration or approval of men (and women!) or am I seeking the approval of God?

Do (or will) I look like I have an intimate relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ wearing this or would people assume that I am living the American dream or the night life?

Is this clothing too tight or see through in the natural light??

Are areas close to my private parts (thighs, stomach, cleavage etc.) exposed? Are my private areas showing? Would they show if I  bend/ lean over,  sit down, reach up etc.??

Do I feel sexy or fierce wearing this? Do I feel socially (economically) puffed up wearing this?

Do I get fashion inspiration from celebrities or from other people on social media who don’t know or love God?

These are just some things to think about. We should be asking ourselves these kinds of questions because not only are we to abstain from the appearance of evil but because Modesty is an attitude. So is my attitude concerning the way I dress selfish and prideful? or am I thinking of others?? And if the process has just begun, am I willing to let go of all my favorite clothes that do not glorify God because I love Him more than anything and I understand that I am not my own!?

What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

So, now that we know that we are to dress with humility in a respectable manner not being inconsiderate or flashy, we do not seek to draw attention to ourselves knowing that our true beauty and identity comes from our godly character in Christ Jesus. I love you all my precious sisters and if you are able to, please share your transformation pictures and/or stories with us!

With nothing but love,

Brandi

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Trying dresses on. I live in Texas so I usually wear sleeveless dresses and just throw on a cardigan or a denim jacket.
Biblical womanhood, christian lifestyle, Marriage and family, Motherhood

Being a homemaker: Why I quit my job to stay home full-time

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

(Proverbs 31:27)

In a generation where being a “boss” chick takes precedence over assisting your husband and raising children, it’s no surprise that quitting my job to stay home full-time seemed to be anything but noble.

I remember old friends and family members being a bit concerned because financially speaking, we shouldn’t have been able to make that move. But that’s the thing, I didn’t become a stay at home wife or a homeschooling mom to try and keep up with the Joneses. My husband and I understood the seriousness of fostering a godly family.

We knew that there was no way for me to truly be attentive to my husband (or available for my children) working a full time job with crazy retail hours. And for me, the solution wasn’t to just get another job because taking a step down (or working part-time) in some ways still meant neglecting my God-given responsibilities.

You see homemaking is so much more than just lounging around in your pajamas all day long, and it is certainly more than just cooking and cleaning or doing NEVER ENDING laundry. So I want to share what it is that I actually do at home, and I hope in the midst to encourage some of you who are either new to homemaking or weary in well doing.

So first things first, being suitable for my husband.

Now I married a man who loves God and is seeking His kingdom and His righteousness, so that means that he is often a target for hatred and ridicule. My job is to not only BE but to create (and maintain!) a peaceful, loving and godly place for him to rest and to regroup after a hard exhausting day.

Now I don’t know about you but there is NO peace or love or gentleness or GOODNESS in and of myself. I get these qualities from walking very closely with the Lord. If I were still out  working some stressful and unfulfilling (or exciting and “fulfilling”) job, I wouldn’t have the time, energy or even the desire to spend my extra time praying and reading the Bible or marriage blogs! And I’m just being honest. Staying home allows me to go as deep as I want with the Lord, without any vain distractions or divided loyalty between him and work . The Lord is my foundation. So first of all, I spend my days at home seeking him. THEN I can begin to built or “make” my marriage pleasant with a renewed mind and with fruits of the Spirit.

Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

(Proverbs 14:1)

Discipling my children

Before I got married I was a single (and working!) mother of 3 children, so I understand that you have to do the best that you can do. But now that I am married with a working husband there is no need for me to work or to desperately allow my children to be raised by daycare providers and teachers unbelievers.

This world is blatantly pushing Satan’s agenda and I would be a fool to just volunteer my children over to the system. God has given us parents such an awesome (but big and serious!) responsibility to teach our children about Him and His ways.

It’s like we’re always looking for some grand opportunity to witness to somebody as we overlook our very own children who also need to hear AND SEE the gospel. And by no means does this mean that my children are perfect (or exempt from anything) but that’s okay because I’m not raising them upright for my own pride or glory anyway.

This life is not a game. And even though ultimately they have to live their own, my job as a parent is to lead them (by example!) onto the right path in hopes that they’ll go on to follow Jesus.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

(Proverbs 22:6)

So yeah, this is why I quit my job to stay home full-time. And what a blessing it is my sisters to be able to commit like this!

Much love,
Brandi

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Me and Papa 🙂
Biblical womanhood

Being Natural: Why I no longer wear makeup or hair weaves

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Now I want to address this topic because there are a lot of women coming forth saying that God told them to stop wearing makeup, and there are also a lot of women who are truly pursuing the Lord and just want to know if they could or shouldn’t be wearing it. Now unfortunately, this is a very controversial topic and everyone’s opinions seem to be very biased but we have to be careful not to try and justify OUR OWN desires because our desires apart from God are satanic. They’re carnal!

We as Christian women really need to mature in the Lord because painting our faces and wearing hair sacrificed to idols (research Tonsuring and Chudakarma) shouldn’t even be up for discussion. Wearing makeup is worldly and it doesn’t produce any truth or righteous fruit. So no, I no longer wear it. What’s the use?

It’s vanity, which has no place in the lives OR HEARTS of those claiming to be like Jesus.

” But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.”

(1 Samuel 16:7)

What’s in our hearts plays a major part in influencing the way we carry ourselves. So if you want to talk about the issue of the heart the issue of the heart is pride, no matter how you try to spin it!

We want to adorn our flesh because we aren’t abiding in the Spirit, and some of us are just so insecure that we’re seeking validation from this world.

I don’t care what’s trending or changing with the “culture”, the holy Spirit has never and will never inspire us to modify or to pervert God’s creation—that’s satan. When we try to “enhance” ourselves, in our hearts we believe that God didn’t make us good or “fun” and appealing enough. But who told you that!? Again, that’s a LIE straight from the devil himself!

Now am I saying that those of us who don’t wear makeup are going to heaven?  No. Not necessarily because being natural alone does NOT make you holy. God desires that we repent of living sinful lifestyles so understand that throwing out your MAC and bundles just a start! It’s been about 2 years now and I’m STILL transitioning so I can assure you that if you won’t even give up a tube of lipstick you have not truly given your LIFE to Him.

With love,

Brandi

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Why I left the “church”

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you. And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

 (2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1)

Now first of all, let me just start of by saying that this post isn’t really about why I left the “church” I was attending. It’s more about why I left the congregation of professing Christians in general.

See, there once was a time when I would shy away from admitting that I didn’t have a church home (as if going to church makes you a true believer) but what I’ve learned is to be bold and unapologetic about it because the true church has left the building.

Yup, that’s right! True followers of Jesus Christ are not hanging out in some government building being spoiled by philosophy and by vain deceit after the rudiments of this world or THE TRADITIONS OF MEN and not after Christ. So therefore, I have left the church, or I have forsaken the “assembling” of myself with church people—people who claim to know (and love!) God but are manifesting works of the flesh rather than fruits worthy of repentance.

I mean, what fellowship does a bible believing Christian have with contentious, carnal people who are not obeying the Lord’s commands but are busy building their own kingdoms (or brands!) here on this earth in the name of Jesus? I have met the REAL Jesus and I can assure you that the majority of professing Christians have not had a real encounter with (or revelation of) the living Christ!

These people are not truly seeking the Lord. They’re pursuing the pride of life while I choose DAILY to count it all dung that I might win Christ. And I’m not saying that i’m perfect or that I’m the only one. What I’m saying is is that I’ve been there and done that and have gained NOTHING.

I choose to live right. According to God’s standards, not according to people’s thoughts and/or feelings.

I’ve spent YEARS seeking the Lord and what I found is a HOLY God who isn’t interested in sunday rituals or lip service.

And so the Lord says, “These people say they are mine. They honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. And their worship of me is nothing but man-made rules learned by rote.

(Isaiah 29:13)

He requires true REPENTANCE, we have to come separate! And that includes from vain, proud and ignorant congregations.

So with that being said (because I know that I’ll probably begin to offend a lot of people), if you don’t take anything else away from this post just know that I’ve decided to quit playing church and to wholeheartedly follow Jesus.

With much love,

Brandi

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Our last Easter Sunday, 2016
Devotionals and Encouragement, Feelings and Emotions

Being at peace with all men: A few things I’ve learned about Forgiveness

Jesus made it very clear that God expects us to forgive quickly and freely ..

If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins. (Matthew 6:14-15)

But let’s be real, knowing that doesn’t make it any easier. So I thought I would share a few things I’ve learned over the years that have made forgiving others easier.

So the first thing I’ve learned is not to take offenses personal.

See, when we realize that ultimately ALL sin is committed against God, we will begin to change the way we act, or in this case REACT towards others.

Do not avenge yourselves, dear friends, but give place to God’s wrath, for it is written, “Vengeance is mineI will repay,” says the Lord. (Romans 12:19)

When people sin, they can either repent and receive the same forgiveness of their sins as we did. Or they can (and will!) suffer the eternal consequences. Either way, we have to be at peace with all men. And that doesn’t mean that we have to trust or tolerate unrepentant sin. That just means that we can’t withhold love or forgiveness.

Another thing I’ve learned is that we really have to start trusting God. A lot of us think that we do but we DO NOT, AT ALL!

It can be hard to see the good in difficult situations but we should find comfort in the fact that GOD IS GOOD. And not in a cliche way, but in a way of if He allowed it,  somehow it’s going to work out for my benefit in order to bring HIM glory.

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28)

We have to trust that. And speaking of giving God glory, God does not get the glory out of us being victims, or gossips and slanderers! Instead, we should learn to pray.

I’m learning that praying enables us to see beyond what was done to possibly why it was done. And trust me, I know the last thing we want to do is pray for those who hurt us or our loved ones but the truth is is that’s only because we aren’t abiding in the Spirit.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. (Galatians 5:22-23)

God is rich in mercy. So how can we say that we have his HOLY spirit when we aren’t producing any fruits of it? It’s because we either DON’T have His spirit or we need to humble ourselves. Which is another thing that I’ve learned—to humble myself!

Seriously, It’s easier to forgive as you consider your own debts! Do you guys remember the parable of the unmerciful servant?

Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest. And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt. So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done. Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses. (Matthew 18:21-35)

It’s like, NO MATTER WHAT,  I too was (and am!) NOT worthy of God’s grace and forgiveness.  I offend God and have hurt other people. Hey, I need Jesus! And maybe you already know all of this and just want closure. Well I’ll tell you this, closure does not depend on the other person. Lastly, I’ve learned that we can’t always physically forgive because of physical or “mental” distance. Sometimes we just have to forgive by faith. And that’s okay because it’s all about releasing people in our hearts anyway.

So, I hope that this post has encouraged you to forgive. Let us remember above all else that unforgiveness is sin.

With love,
Brandi

Devotionals and Encouragement

5 things to remember when you’re growing weary

We’ve all been there. In that tormenting place of despair. And to be honest with y’all, I have been a frequent visitor. So I may not know your personal situation or circumstances but I do know what it’s like to be losing (or trying to find!) yourself.

Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? (Matthew 16:24-26)

And that’s the thing, because this whole life process is basically  about dying to ourselves in order to be found in Christ. So as you’re trying to fight the good fight,  I just want to encourage you (and myself!) not to give up.

We WILL have tribulations! Nobody teaches those kinds of promises but the first thing I want us to remember is that as “Christians” we are supposed to be following the examples of Jesus Christ. And that means that as children of God we will have to endure some suffering.

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, we must get rid of every weight and the sin that clings so closely, and run with endurance the race set out for us, keeping our eyes fixed on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of our faith. For the joy set out for him he endured the cross, disregarding its shame, and has taken his seat at the right hand of the throne of God. Think of him who endured such opposition against himself by sinners, so that you may not grow weary in your souls and give up. You have not yet resisted to the point of bloodshed in your struggle against sin. And have you forgotten the exhortation addressed to you as sons? “My son, do not scorn the Lord’s discipline or give up when he corrects you. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves and chastises every son he accepts.” Endure your suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is there that a father does not discipline? But if you do not experience discipline, something all sons have shared in, then you are illegitimate and are not sons. Besides, we have experienced discipline from our earthly fathers and we respected them; shall we not submit ourselves all the more to the Father of spirits and receive life? For they disciplined us for a little while as seemed good to them, but he does so for our benefit, that we may share his holiness. Now all discipline seems painful at the time, not joyful. But later it produces the fruit of peace and righteousness for those trained by it. Therefore, strengthen your listless hands and your weak knees, and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but be healed. (Hebrews 12:1-13, NET)

And remember, you are not the only one suffering!

Be sober and alert. Your enemy the devil, like a roaring lion, is on the prowl looking for someone to devour. Resist him, strong in your faith, because you know that your brothers and sisters throughout the world are enduring the same kinds of suffering.  And, after you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace who called you to his eternal glory in Christ will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. (1 Peter 5:8-10, NET)

There is a WHOLE BODY of believers who are ultimately fighting toward that same heart, mind and agenda. And no it is not easy when our souls cling to the dust but the scriptures are TRUE . Remember, we are more than CONQUERORS through Jesus!

 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. (John 16:33)

I think a lot of us have a misconception about Tribulation. It’s like we only view it as great trouble or suffering caused by oppression or persecution. And that is true but when we start trying to crucify our flesh we don’t see that kind of agony as Tribulation. Which it is, these are the tests and trials the Bible speaks about.  (In your own time review 1 Peter chapter 4)

So then let those who suffer according to the will of God entrust their souls to a faithful Creator as they do good. (1 Peter 4:19)

We have to remember that the battle is spiritual, and that we overcome evil by DOING GOOD (Romans 12:21). This is the whole point of being told not to get weary in well doing.

And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. (Galatians 6:9)

It’s all about endurance, and about having that HOPE and faith in God to know that we aren’t obeying (which according to the Bible is loving and worshiping) Him in vain.

Oh how I love this scripture: Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him. (James 1:12)

So lastly,  I just want to remind you to guard your hearts with the truth. Because if we accept lies (in any form) our hearts are in danger of being hardened toward the Lord. Jesus told us that we can not serve to masters. So you’re going to have to pledge your allegiance to one or the other. And we do this by the way that we live our lives. Don’t let anyone deceive you, and don’t deceive yourself. Jesus has no pleasure in us being lukewarm. It’s unacceptable. It’s like would you accept being served lukewarm tea or coffee? I mean, i’m just trying to imagine this.

 I know all the things you do, that you are neither hot nor cold. I wish that you were one or the other! But since you are like lukewarm water, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth! (Revelation 3:15-16, NLT)

So I hope that this post really helps us to refocus on what is truly important. I’m praying for you and I hope that you all are praying for me too.

With love,
Brandi

When you want to give up, remember why you started. (1)

Devotionals and Encouragement, Faith

How I strengthen my faith

Now I’ll be the first to admit that I do not have the greatest faith. This is something that I am working very hard to develop in. I’ve struggled A LOT with double mindedness, so I just want to share with those of you who can relate what I’ve been doing to make progress.

So number 1, (and these aren’t in any particular order. It really just depends on the season or situation that I’m in) I listen to the gospel.

So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. (Romans 10:17)

To be honest, I don’t always feel like reading the bible. So I am BEYOND thankful for people who are SENT to preach the gospel. And I’m not talking about self proclaimed pastors and female preachers on instagram. I’m talking about true followers of Jesus Christ who be teaching THE TRUTH.  REPENT! And DENY YOURSELF the pleasures of this world!! Not only is their allegiance to God inspiring but the reproof immediately pulls me right back into the Spirit. Yaaasssss!

I read edifying books and blogs

I’m a big reader (and obviously a writer) so, it’s right up my alley. I’ve learned (and grown) so much from reading other people’s testimonies.

And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death. (Revelation 12:11)

I confess my sins to my husband

Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. (James 5:16)

There’s just something about admitting that you’ve messed up (or that you’re needing help!). And that is exactly how my husband has become my therapist😂 But seriously, he and my children know my intentions so they can just listen or respond with truth, prayer and love, instead of worldly wisdom (which by the way is just demonic and foolishness to God).

I pray in tongues

And speaking of prayer, one of the most effective ways to build OURSELVES up is to pray in tongues (if we have received them). Now I don’t do this as often as I should but when I do it’s like I’ve had an extreme makeover. I’m undeniably renewed.

But, beloved, remember ye the words which were spoken before of the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ; How that they told you there should be mockers in the last time, who should walk after their own ungodly lusts. These be they who separate themselves, sensual, having not the Spirit. But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost, Keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life. (Jude 1:17-21)

I watch near death experiences

Another thing I like to do when I’m feeling weary is to watch personal testimonies and near death encounters. Of course there is a lot of unbiblical foolishness on the web but there is also a lot of truth and encouragement. Near death experiences always produce more fear of the Lord in me. Which is a VERY good and necessary thing.

Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. (Ecclesiastes 12:13)

I have meaningful conversations (usually with my husband) about God’s will and character

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.(Galatians 5:22-26)

Sitting around talking about God’s will (and wrath!) is a for sure way to get my affections off of this world (or off of myself!) and back on Him. His ways really are perfect. So if you are struggling with abiding in the Spirit, I encourage you to just read Psalm 119. It quickens me EVERY time!

I write letters to Jesus

Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity. (Matthew 7:21-23)

This is something that I’ve just recently started doing and I am SO glad that I have . I really want to know Jesus personally/intimately. And I found out that he is so willing!  Jesus literally responded to one of my letters and it took my faith to a whole nother level. This is more than journaling. This is like texting someone you’ve just met. It’s communication and its definitely strengthening our relationship.

So, these are the things that I am currently doing to grow in faith. I hope that something on this list can also help you on your journey. I love you my sisters, let us not get weary in well doing.

Brandi

Book reviews, Marriage and family, Motherhood

The Peaceful Mom book review

A fun fact about me is that I LOVE TO READ. I am always reading something! So with that being said, I thought that I would start sharing with you all what books I am currently reading. Right now, I have about 3 books in rotation but before I finish any of them I want to take a minute to share my thoughts on a book that I just finished: The Peaceful Mom by April Cassidy

Quick disclosure: I will only be reviewing books that in my opinion are worth reading. I am not going to waste my time (or yours!) reading (or mentioning) random books that aren’t edifying. So basically, you can assume that every book I review, I am recommending.

Just thought I’d throw that out there..

But anyway, many of you may already be familiar with April Cassidy, The Peaceful Wife. And if you aren’t, here is a link to her blog (you’ll want to thank me later but all glory belongs to God!). I have been following her ministry for about 3 years now and she has inspired me to humble myself as a woman and to become truly anchored in Christ.

When she shared that she was finishing up The Peaceful Mom, I was beyond excited because I often feel like I am failing in that area. And to be honest,  I wasn’t that interested in reading her first book The Peaceful Wife because I assumed that whatever she was talking about would already be covered on the blog. But after reading this,  I don’t even care. I’m going to read it because now i’m wondering what other provision God has provided through it for my marriage.

But that’s another post for another day.  I’ll be sure to let you know but for now here are my thoughts on The Peaceful Mom!

First things first. This is not your typical (and carnal!) “How To”  be a better mom book. This book focuses more on building your relationship with God than with your children (which I love!).

In the Peaceful Mom, April walks us through (with scripture!) correcting our negative beliefs, thoughts and emotions towards God, ourselves and toward other people (especially our children). She also teaches (or reminds) us that true peace can only be found in right standing with Jesus.

Now like I mentioned before,  I wanted to read this book because I have been all over the place emotionally as a mother. And I’m also a step mother so I want to make sure to have a healthy and impartial relationship with my step daughter.

What I like about this book is that it features some of her own personal stories as well as testimonies from other men and women, which is encouraging because it highlights how even though our circumstances are different we all have struggles (and are overcoming!). Another thing I liked was how throughout the entire book she continually addresses sin and points us back to Jesus. That is also why I appreciate her blogs.  April Cassidy know she be preaching the gospel!

But ultimately,  what I took away from this book was, and I quote, “A peaceful mom knows God intimately and follows him wholeheartedly.” After reading The Peaceful Mom I not only found myself coming to repentance, but I also found myself respecting my husband as a parent AND my children. Obviously I recommend this book. It is a must read (even if you are a single woman without a husband or children). I will definitely be revisiting this book because it is full of prayer and wisdom.

So there it is! I hope that you guys enjoyed this book review because like I said, I’ll be doing them quite often. Also, I would love to hear about what edifying books you’ve been reading so please share them with me in the comment section! Much love!!

Your sister,
Brandi

Don’t forget to visit April Cassidy’s blog:
Peaceful Wife
Peaceful Single girl

All things Jesus♥, christian lifestyle

Why I no longer celebrate traditional holidays

Since the holidays are right around the corner, I thought it’d be the perfect time to share with you all why I no longer celebrate them. So basically, I don’t celebrate traditional holidays anymore because I found out that they all have pagan origins. And I know that a lot of Christians still celebrate Halloween, Christmas, and Easter (really everything!) so keep in mind that I’m not trying to antagonize anybody.  I’m just sharing with you all how I feel about it. But I would still encourage you to do your own research (and to study the scriptures to show yourself approved) because we are not only destroyed for lack of knowledge but for rejecting the truth.

“Even him, whose coming is after the working of Satan with all power and signs and lying wonders, And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved. And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness. But we are bound to give thanks always to God for you, brethren beloved of the Lord, because God hath from the beginning chosen you to salvation through sanctification of the Spirit and belief of the truth:” (2 Thessalonians 2:9-13)

Now since the holidays do not genuinely commemorate God, partaking in the festivities just for fun would all boil down to me being a  lover of pleasure more than a lover of God. And I don’t know about you but I don’t want to deceive myself. I don’t want to be thinking that I know and love God more than anything when I really don’t.

“If someone claims, “I know God,” but doesn’t obey God’s commandments, that person is a liar and is not living in the truth.” (1 John 2:4)

Now that’s haunting! And if you TRULY know God then you already know that we don’t get to just worship Him however we want. We have to worship Him in spirit and in TRUTH and in obedience! So to me, celebrating pagan holidays in the name of Jesus is like offering up strange fire to God and it’s disobedience. The bible is very clear on coming separate and not conforming to the customs of this world. And God specifically told His people not to worship him the way other nations worshiped their idols.

“When the Lord your God goes ahead of you and destroys the nations and you drive them out and live in their land, do not fall into the trap of following their customs and worshiping their gods. Do not inquire about their gods, saying, ‘How do these nations worship their gods? I want to follow their example.’ You must not worship the Lord your God the way the other nations worship their gods, for they perform for their gods every detestable act that the Lord hates. They even burn their sons and daughters as sacrifices to their gods. So be careful to obey all the commands I give you. You must not add anything to them or subtract anything from them.”

(Dueteronomy 29:29-32)

So it is what it is. And it doesn’t matter what everyone else is doing. People have seared consciences, that’s another reason why I’ve decided to stop following the traditions of men and to start following Jesus!

With love,

Brandi

Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ. (Colossians 2:8)

Marriage and family, Motherhood, Prayer and fasting

When your children aren’t interested in the Lord

 

 

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Me and my babies!

It can be frustrating, and ultimately heartbreaking when your children seem to have no genuine interest or affection for the Lord. This is something that I have been experiencing lately. All of my kids believe in God but one of them in particular just isn’t that enthusiastic about living a true Christian lifestyle. So I thought that I would share with you all how I’m able to be at peace with it all.

Now first of all, I just want to address the fact that we are NOT exempt from having unbelieving children. There were plenty of godly people in the Bible with perverse offspring . I know we like to believe that out of all these people in the world, that our entire families are going to be part of that FEW saved by the Lord.  But don’t be naive, Jesus himself told us that households will be divided so it would be wise to take in the full counsel of the Word and let the scriptures sober us.

Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.

(Matthew 10:34-37)

Now does this mean that we can or should just give up hope and throw our children over to the wolves ? Of Course not. Especially if you have young children like mine who need to be stewarded. What this means is that we are not to love our families more than we love God because if they really do decide to reject Him we’ll either try to override their free will or shrink back in fear and compromise (usually by tolerating their blasphemy and/or worldliness).

And I’m not gone lie, whenever any of my kids start acting all nonchalant about the things of God naturally I just want to freak out. But as I really begin to pray for them that burden I think I have to carry as a parent is lifted.

Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus

(Philippians 4:6-7)

And that’s the thing, I can have peace knowing that the battle is truly not mine to fight. My job is to simply pray without ceasing and to live out the gospel (and not because my children are watching but because I fear God and because Jesus is the Lord of my life). That is what’s important because if we can just be honest with ourselves, we are probably the main reason why our children aren’t interested. Maybe you came to the Lord when you were older so your children are already grown. Or maybe you were just a little too zealous like I was and repelled them off with MANY words! See I used to think that I was the holy Spirit and that it was my job to convict my children of their sins and to reveal all kinds of “truth” to them. But I must’ve forgotten that I don’t have any power. I couldn’t even change myself! So I just needed to BACK OFF and let GOD be God.

But anyway, ALL OF THAT just to say that at the end of the day all we can do is work out our OWN salvation with fear and trembling and pray that they’ll do the same.

Group hug♥

Brandi

Biblical womanhood, Modesty

Being Modest: How I dress now after my encounter with Jesus

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On my way to a New Year’s Eve worship service, 2012

When I look at old pictures of myself I just can not believe how unseemly I carried myself as a woman claiming to be like Jesus.

We, as in Christian women are so entangled in this world that now we’re dressing up vanity as Modesty which has nothing to do with apparel.

We are being taught that being modest means throwing on a “cute” dress with some heels and some jewelry!

But true modesty is about character. It’s about humility which yes, can be seen in the way we carry ourselves but it does not stem from how we dress. 

I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.

 1 Timothy 2:9-10

You see a woman who is truly modest will most likely go unnoticed because she isn’t trying to draw vain glory to herself, not even through her clothing. 

 And I know that some of you may think that God isn’t that concerned about the outward appearance but in context, that is not true either. We are to glorify God  (not our flesh!) in our bodies and our spirit.

What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.

1 Cor 6:19-20

I have been led to cover my body with long, loose fitting skirts and dresses because it is not God’s will that we be objectified or stumbling blocks to other people. 

Now just for the record, I don’t think that it’s sin for a woman to wear pants. Are there pants that are inappropriate and completely demonic!?? YES. But in a general sense I believe that the scripture being referred to here is really just condemning homosexuality and cross dressing. But then again, I am not God so my opinion doesn’t even matter. You have to make sure that you are being led by His spirit.

So with that being said, I encourage you to seek the Lord concerning the way you dress because there is no godliness or modesty in emulating celebrities or other worldly women on Instagram. I’m just sayin’…

With nothing but love,

Brandi

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Now, a typical outfit for me would be a tank top tucked into a maxi shirt, and when I leave the house I usually throw on a cardigan or my denim jacket.
christian lifestyle

Being a Vegetarian: My advice to those of you being called to a plant based diet

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April 2016, When my journey first began

Let me just start off by saying that I have been a vegetarian for quite some time now but I can not front like I haven’t been back and forth on this for YEARS now! It has literally taken me 3 years to accept the fact that I have been called to a plant based diet.

 A lot of us are being led to change our diets so being a vegetarian I just want to encourage those of you who are on how to get started.

First, and foremost! Make sure that you are being led by God.

Selfish ambition is not only demonic (James 3:14-16)  but vanity in the eyes of God. And if God isn’t leading you to change your diet you will end up in bondage. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH EATING MEAT..

For every creature of God is good, and nothing to be refused, if it be received with thanksgiving: For it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer.

(1 Timothy 4:4-5)

The problem is is that God did not create what most of you are eating! If you want to eat well, just stop eating factory farmed animals and things being created by man!

Be discreet

Now i’m not saying that you have to hide the fact that you’re a vegan or a vegetarian. What im saying is, is that you don’t have to boast or make an idol out of it either. Trust me, no one cares. And the majority of professing Christians lack discipline so they just think you’re being extra, or weird. For instance, my family thinks that I’m crazy because I don’t eat meat when they’re the ones medically overweight with multiple diseases..

This world is SO deceived. Just do yourself a favor and protect the way you eat.

Remember why you started

 You will be tempted to AT LEAST reminisce about eating meat so if you end up eating a piece of a piece of chicken don’t tear yourself down about it. We should not be consumed with our every day lives so when you find yourself struggling (or giving up!) just remember why you started.

Eat what YOU like

You do not need to eat like fully raw Kristina. Of Course you should try new things (and have a well balanced diet!) but you can start with what you already enjoy eating. Don’t over think it. Focus on learning how to cook or you will end up just plain HUNGRY, stuffing your face with junk. Also, make sure that you meal prep because eating out limits your options and will have you meditating on “restrictions”.

So yeah, that’s pretty much it. Being a vegetarian has many benefits. Health wise it’s obvious but spiritually I am learning how to discipline my flesh and how to live as a minimalist. Now I don’t know exactly why or how long I can’t eat meat but honestly,  I don’t need to know. I just need to follow the Lord’s leading. If you would like to know what I typically eat in a day, just let me know and i’ll make a part 2 to this post.

Your sister,

Brandi

Biblical womanhood, Christian Headcovering, Prayer and fasting

Being Humbled: My Head covering experience

Funny how we’ll jump head first (no pun intended) into anything that this world suggests but when it comes to this bible we claim to believe, every little thing is questioned.

 Now even though I am not here to debate head coverings because the scriptures are very clear on whether or not Christian women should cover their heads..

But if anyone wants to argue about this, I simply say that we have no other custom than this, and neither do God’s other churches. 

1 Corinthians 11:16

I just want to encourage my sisters who want to grow in the Lord to learn how to submit to something other than their feelings.

The truth is, is that only a woman who is ignorant and carnal or vain would have a problem covering her head in public when its time to pray because we sure don’t have a problem tying our hair up in scarves to make fashion statements! 

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(I’ll use myself as an example!)

I started covering my head about a year ago but to be honest, it was mainly because I had cut all of my damaged hair off. I thought that my intentions were pure but as my hair grew, my confidence too and my true motives were exposed.

Now even though my head covering journey started off completely in vain, I have grown from covering my head in so many ways.

First of all, it is humbling.

 Like I said, wearing a head covering quickly exposed the pride and vanity in my heart. And even though a woman choosing to shave her head is shameful I believe that God allowed it to bring me low. It forced me to deal with my insecurities and now I am starting to embrace myself without validation from other people. 

Wearing a head covering has also been a blessing to my marriage. 

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Through it the holy Spirit has taught me so much about submission and my position as a woman. Not only have I become passionate about honoring men and their GOD GIVEN authority over women, but I have learned how to “help” instead of hindering them with my physical appearance.

I am softer (as in gentle) and quieter than i’ve ever been before and even though meekness is generally frowned upon, it is admirable to God.

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;  While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

1 Peter 3:1-4

Now as far as my prayer life goes, all I know is that I have had a desire to fast and pray like never before but there are some amazing testimonies out there from women who can confirm becoming more effective concerning spiritual warfare.

would love to hear your stories so please share and may the Lord bless you all in pursuing HIS will♥

Your sister,

Brandi