The message (or gospel!) of Jesus Christ was never meant to be complicated. In destroying the works of the devil and overcoming the world, Jesus died so that in him we would have the power (and the privilege!) to repent and overcome as he did. The kingdom, or judgement and reign of the one, true and living God and His Son Jesus Christ is coming! So if we love them and want to be apart of the kingdom (of righteousness, peace and joy) we have to live right— according to THEIR standards. So, I hope that you choose life. God bless you and feel free to comment on and/or share this video♥
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For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.
Writing this is bittersweet because I feel like I’m constantly dethroning idols that have infiltrated my heart. And publicly sharing my understanding of this will not only hold me accountable but leave me with no more excuses.
See we can not seek (or love) God with all of our hearts, when part of it is seeking other things (including someone else). We have to beware of what we set our hearts on because even good and godly desires can become idols.
An idol is anything more important to us than delighting in or serving God (alone). They are our deepest longings. Whatever we are lusting after. Some common idols that I have personally worshiped were things like Control and perfectionism, Prestige (recognition and validation from this world), Beauty, Natural health and wellness, organic food etc. Beautiful homes, My children, My husband (and marriage in general), Entrepreneurship, Ministry, Happiness.. Just to name a few. And what I’ve learned is that through convictions and restlessness, God frustrates my ideas making it nearly impossible for me to pursue my idols. This is how we know that (or when) a desire has become an idol.
If you (or I!) want something (or some things!) so bad that we begin to sin when we don’t get it (or to attain it), then we have a MAJOR problem and it’s called an idol. Even if what you want is good! Because I’ve learned that in reality, what I personally desire is only as good as my patience and trust in God for it. If I can’t continue to love and to EXALT God in the meantime, and I become discontent and miserable then I am not committed to (or delighting in) the Lord. In fact, I am sinning because my affections, and appetite or cravings shouldn’t be on anything but Him, His Son and their coming kingdom.
Everything (and everybody!) will always be competing for our affections. Especially in this era of technology and consumerism. Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with genuinely wanting a house or a child. It’s not the end of the world, but will it be to you if you never get them? Becoming angry (especially toward the things of God ), frustrated, manipulative, covetous or full of self pity are all results of idolizing our desires. So is rebellion. I was notorious for seeking temporary comfort and relief from God’s chastising. In my pride I would turn to things like food, sleep, shopping, TV, Social media etc. And I don’t know if it’s just me but it’s like I can not worship anything other than God. Of course it’s sin but it’s also tormenting spending all of my time, energy and money daydreaming about, planning for and longing after idols. And the worst part is that they don’t even truly satisfy! Once conquered, we’re always wanting MORE—Bigger or better!
Hell and destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied. (Proverbs 27:20)
So, I just wanted to share my thoughts with you . May we all just delight solely in the Lord in obedience and in hopes that He’ll find our hearts “empty” enough to start storing up His own perfect desires♥♥
Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass. (Psalm 37:4-5)
For this is God’s will: that you become holy, that you keep away from sexual immorality, that each of you know how to possess his own body in holiness and honor, not in lustful passion like the Gentiles who do not know God. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4. NET)
If you haven’t read my post on how I dress as a Christian woman then you should also check that out because this post is just going to be about how to choose modest apparel.
Now, I know that there are a lot of “white washed” women out here but that doesn’t justify vanity or lack of discretion. Because either way, a woman who is truly holy and God fearing will not present her body in a provocative (or worldly) manner.
Generally speaking , the outward appearance really is a reflection of the sanctification process that’s taking place within. I am a witness to this! I started dressing different because my MIND changed about what I used to believe was cute or appropriate for godly women. This is just one of the ways we are transformed by the renewing of our minds. Only then can we truly tell whether we are dressing appropriately or not.
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. (Romans 12:1-2)
It’s like how is it that we think that we’re so set apart when we look (and behave!) just like the women of the secular world. It’s because we’re deceived! And I remember being in that place, not even considering the fact that my clothes didn’t match my profession (which was that I was a Christian woman who knew God). Looking back I can admit that I was all talk. Obviously, I did not know God or have His spirit because if I did, I wouldn’t have been so comfortable dressing raunchy and provocative.
But again, this post isn’t about the way I dress. I believe that we need to leave our own personal convictions (or decisions) out of the equation lest we cause division. Therefore, I’m just giving you some things to consider in general as you get dressed as a “Kingdom Ambassador”.
Because that’s the thing, if anything, we are to be exalting God, not our clothing! If you are still trying to express yourself through “fashion” then you are still a little immature. And that just real. That immodest heart (and mindset!) is all about emulating others and worshiping Self. It’s about drawing attention from men (and other women!) to your body and sexuality. It is about trying to be beautiful and desirable when you are should be continuously dying to yourself (your will and desires). On the contrary, true Modesty is about humbling ourselves and exalting God. It’s about honoring our body (which is God’s temple), other people (especially other people’s marriages and children) and the scriptures. I can still be feminine without being vain or inappropriate. In fact, godly femininity doesn’t even require all of that.
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)
If I really want to dress Modesty then the Bible tells me exactly how to do that. We are even told what to “put on” spiritually!
- This I say, therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles walk, in the futility of their mind, having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart; who, being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness. But you have not so learned Christ, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness. (Ephesians 4:17-20)
- Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts. (Romans 13:13-14)
- Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. (Colossians 3:12-14)
So after we start there, we can began to assess whether or not our physical clothing is appropriate. You may even find yourself shopping at different places then you would normally. I am 5’9 and I weight about 135 pounds so right now, in the current state of this world, the only place I can find modest apparel for my body type is at the goodwill.
Eventually I plan on making my own clothes but for now this is where I shop and STILL I have to check myself. When choosing the right apparel it can be very helpful to ask yourself things like:
Why do I like this shirt, skirt or dress (etc.)?
Am I at peace with it or am I indecisive?
Does this cost too much?
Do I find self worth or value in designer items? Do labels puff me up? Would I feel some type of way wearing cheap or resale clothes?
What type of people usually wear these prints or trends (etc)? Am I emulating celebrities or will I be associated with ungodly groups of people?
Am I seeking the admiration or approval of men (and women!) or am I seeking the approval of God?
Do (or will) I look like I have an intimate relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ wearing this or would people assume that I am living the American dream or the night life?
Is this clothing too tight or see through in the natural light??
Are areas close to my private parts (thighs, stomach, cleavage etc.) exposed? Are my private areas showing? Would they show if I bend/ lean over, sit down, reach up etc.??
Do I feel sexy or fierce wearing this? Do I feel socially (economically) puffed up wearing this?
Do I get fashion inspiration from celebrities or from other people on social media who don’t know or love God?
These are just some things to think about. We should be asking ourselves these kinds of questions because not only are we to abstain from the appearance of evil but because Modesty is an attitude. So is my attitude concerning the way I dress selfish and prideful? or am I thinking of others?? And if the process has just begun, am I willing to let go of all my favorite clothes that do not glorify God because I love Him more than anything and I understand that I am not my own!?
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)
So, now that we know that we are to dress with humility in a respectable manner not being inconsiderate or flashy, we do not seek to draw attention to ourselves knowing that our true beauty and identity comes from our godly character in Christ Jesus. I love you all my precious sisters and if you are able to, please share your transformation pictures and/or stories with us!
With nothing but love,
“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”(Proverbs 31:27)
In a generation where being a “boss” chick takes precedence over assisting your husband and raising children, it’s no surprise that quitting my job to stay home full-time seemed to be anything but noble.
I remember old friends and family members being a bit concerned because financially speaking, we shouldn’t have been able to make that move. But that’s the thing, I didn’t become a stay at home wife or a homeschooling mom to try and keep up with the Joneses. My husband and I understood the seriousness of fostering a godly family.
We knew that there was no way for me to truly be attentive to my husband (or available for my children) working a full time job with crazy retail hours. And for me, the solution wasn’t to just get another job because taking a step down (or working part-time) in some ways still meant neglecting my God-given responsibilities.
You see homemaking is so much more than just lounging around in your pajamas all day long, and it is certainly more than just cooking and cleaning or doing NEVER ENDING laundry. So I want to share what it is that I actually do at home, and I hope in the midst to encourage some of you who are either new to homemaking or weary in well doing.
So first things first, being suitable for my husband.
Now I married a man who loves God and is seeking His kingdom and His righteousness, so that means that he is often a target for hatred and ridicule. My job is to not only BE but to create (and maintain!) a peaceful, loving and godly place for him to rest and to regroup after a hard exhausting day.
Now I don’t know about you but there is NO peace or love or gentleness or GOODNESS in and of myself. I get these qualities from walking very closely with the Lord. If I were still out working some stressful and unfulfilling (or exciting and “fulfilling”) job, I wouldn’t have the time, energy or even the desire to spend my extra time praying and reading the Bible or marriage blogs! And I’m just being honest. Staying home allows me to go as deep as I want with the Lord, without any vain distractions or divided loyalty between him and work . The Lord is my foundation. So first of all, I spend my days at home seeking him. THEN I can begin to built or “make” my marriage pleasant with a renewed mind and with fruits of the Spirit.
“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” (Proverbs 14:1)
Discipling my children
Before I got married I was a single (and working!) mother of 3 children, so I understand that you have to do the best that you can do. But now that I am married with a working husband there is no need for me to work or to desperately allow my children to be raised by
daycare providers and teachers unbelievers.
This world is blatantly pushing Satan’s agenda and I would be a fool to just volunteer my children over to the system. God has given us parents such an awesome (but big and serious!) responsibility to teach our children about Him and His ways.
It’s like we’re always looking for some grand opportunity to witness to somebody as we overlook our very own children who also need to hear AND SEE the gospel. And by no means does this mean that my children are perfect (or exempt from anything) but that’s okay because I’m not raising them upright for my own pride or glory anyway.
This life is not a game. And even though ultimately they have to live their own, my job as a parent is to lead them (by example!) onto the right path in hopes that they’ll go on to follow Jesus.
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)
So yeah, this is why I quit my job to stay home full-time. And what a blessing it is to be able to commit like this!
Now I want to address this topic because there are a lot of women coming forth saying that God told them to stop wearing makeup, and there are also a lot of women who are truly pursuing the Lord and just want to know if they could or shouldn’t be wearing it. Now unfortunately, this is a very controversial topic and everyone’s opinions seem to be very biased but we have to be careful not to try and justify OUR OWN desires because our desires apart from God are satanic. They’re carnal!
We as Christian women really need to mature in the Lord because painting our faces and wearing hair sacrificed to idols (research Tonsuring and Chudakarma) shouldn’t even be up for discussion. Wearing makeup is worldly and it doesn’t produce any truth or righteous fruit. So no, I no longer wear it. What’s the use?
It’s vanity, which has no place in the lives OR HEARTS of those claiming to be like Jesus.
“But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)
What’s in our hearts plays a major part in influencing the way we carry ourselves. So if you want to talk about the issue of the heart the issue of the heart is pride, no matter how you try to spin it!
We want to adorn our flesh because we aren’t abiding in the Spirit, and some of us are just so insecure that we’re seeking validation from this world.
I don’t care what’s trending or changing with the “culture”, the holy Spirit has never and will never inspire us to modify or to pervert God’s creation—that’s satan. When we try to “enhance” ourselves, in our hearts we believe that God didn’t make us good or “fun” and appealing enough. But who told you that!? Again, that’s a LIE straight from the devil himself!
Now am I saying that those of us who don’t wear makeup are going to heaven? No. Not necessarily because being natural alone does NOT make you holy. God desires that we repent of living sinful lifestyles so understand that throwing out your MAC and bundles just a start! It’s been about 2 years now and I’m STILL transitioning so I can assure you that if you won’t even give up a tube of lipstick you have not truly given your LIFE to Him.
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you. And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.
(2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1)
Now first of all, let me just start of by saying that this post isn’t really about why I left the “church” I was attending. It’s more about why I left the congregation of professing Christians in general.
See, there once was a time when I would shy away from admitting that I didn’t have a church home (as if going to church makes you a true believer) but what I’ve learned is to be bold and unapologetic about it because the true church has left the building.
Yup, that’s right! True followers of Jesus Christ are not hanging out in some government building being spoiled by philosophy and by vain deceit after the rudiments of this world or THE TRADITIONS OF MEN and not after Christ. So therefore, I have left the “church”, or I have forsaken the assembling of myself with church people—people who claim to know (and love!) God but are manifesting works of the flesh rather than fruits worthy of repentance.
I mean, what fellowship does a bible believing Christian have with contentious, carnal people who are not obeying the Lord’s commands but are busy building their own kingdoms (or brands!) here on this earth in the name of Jesus? I have met the REAL Jesus and I can assure you that the majority of professing Christians have not had a real encounter with (or revelation of) the living Christ!
These people are not truly seeking the Lord. They’re pursuing the pride of life while I choose DAILY to count it all dung that I might win Christ. And I’m not saying that i’m perfect or that I’m the only one. What I’m saying is is that I’ve been there and done that and have gained NOTHING.
I choose to live right. According to God’s standards, not according to people’s thoughts and/or feelings.
I’ve spent YEARS seeking the Lord and what I found is a HOLY God who isn’t interested in Sunday rituals or lip service.
And so the Lord says, “These people say they are mine. They honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. And their worship of me is nothing but man-made rules learned by rote.
He requires true REPENTANCE, we have to come separate! And that includes from vain, proud and ignorant congregations. So, with that being said, if you don’t take anything else away from this post just know that I’ve decided to quit playing church and to wholeheartedly follow the Jesus.
With nothing but love,
If you’re interested, I shared how to choose the right congregation to fellowship with here
“This is all the more urgent, for you know how late it is; time is running out. Wake up, for our salvation is nearer now than when we first believed. The night is almost gone; the day of salvation will soon be here. So remove your dark deeds like dirty clothes, and put on the shining armor of right living. Because we belong to the day, we must live decent lives for all to see. Don’t participate in the darkness of wild parties and drunkenness, or in sexual promiscuity and immoral living, or in quarreling and jealousy. Instead, clothe yourself with the presence of the Lord Jesus Christ. And don’t let yourself think about ways to indulge your evil desires.” (Romans 13:11-14, NLT)
In addition to the previous post, I just want to encourage us all to examine ourselves. As I mentioned, many claim to believe the Bible to be true but are contradicting their professions with their own interpretations and lifestyles.
You see, we have deceived ourselves when we begin to pick and choose what commands (and directives) to obey. The bible can not just be true to us to an extent (until it becomes inconvenient). We have to accept it to be true (and right!) in its entirety.
I remember my mother bringing a couple young ladies over my house for what I thought would be a little Bible studying. Then she told them to just go through the scriptures and pick out what they like. After I explained how we have to read the scriptures in context, she told them that they don’t have to be (and I quote) “A radical Jesus person”. Um.. First of all, low blow. And second off all, YES WE DO! That’s the main requirement of being a FOLLOWER OF JESUS. We have to lay down our lives in order to follow Christ. And as “believers” and Bible readers shouldn’t we know this!? Unfortunately, many like my mother think that you are judging them when you propose things like truth, obedience and holiness. They will say that they aren’t any less of a Christian just because they don’t believe or live like you do. But friends, don’t be deceived (and if this is you, don’t deceive yourself). True believers of Jesus Christ don’t pursue their own standards of righteousness. In fact, you who oppose are really the ones being self righteous by living by your own standards of what’s right (or good enough!) regardless of what the Bible teaches. The scriptures are for training in RIGHTEOUSNESS. They are not self serving affirmations or demonic laws of attraction prompts!
“All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.” (1 Timothy 3:16-17)
Personally, I just simply read the Bible as a guide. I obey the Lord’s commands as I surrender my life and MY OWN desires. I seek to continuously be sanctified knowing that righteousness in Christ isn’t optional or unattainable. So, if you claim to believe in the God of the Bible (the same God of Abraham, Issac and Jacob), then again, I challenge you to really examine what you say that you believe because the Bible teaches holiness not lawlessness or once saved always saved.
With nothing but love, Brandi
“By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.” (John 13:35)
So recently I blogged about coming separate from this world, and I mentioned how a lot of professing Christians are actually still unbelievers. In this post, I’m going to specify 3 things that I believe are (but aren’t limited to) indications of a true believer. So let’s get right into it.
#1 They believe the Bible to be completely true AND RIGHT!
In addition to the opening scripture, true disciples of Jesus Christ are deeply rooted in sound doctrine. The bible is clear on what is sin (and what is and isn’t appropriate for those professing godliness). Therefore true believers take into account the full counsel of the bible without cherry picking.
#2 They come to repentance and are born again of the Spirit
“Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.” 1John 3:9
True followers of Jesus Christ are not sinners. They do not live in a constant state of sin or worldliness (pursuing the lust of the eyes, the lust of the flesh or the pride of life). They understand that grace does NOT excuse sin and that there is no such thing as once saved always saved.
#3 They’re always concerned about the things of God
Real Christians are set on helping others also live upright because they know that this is the end of the age and that the whole world lies in wickedness (1John 5:19). They are not concerned about their everyday lives. They seek the kingdom of God first and deny themselves the “pleasures” and luxuries of this life.
Ultimately, there’s no distinction between mainstream Christianity and the world. They look a like, act a like, and pursue the same things making true children of God seem insane. Which is expected since they are a peculiar people 🙂
Much love, Brandi
Let me just start by saying that as a mother, reading edifying books is one of the ways that I refresh myself . So when Sally Clarkson began to wrap up her message explaining how a mother whose well is dry can not continue to give to others without cratering, I was beyond convinced that this book is a treasure.
See Sally Clarkson has been more than a mentor to me . She has served as THE mother of mothers to us in The Mission of Motherhood although she would probably disagree.
I am not the perfect mother but my vision and understanding of God’s design and intentions gives me a standard of maturing to grow toward.
-Sally Clarkson, The Mission of Motherhood
I have never read a book on motherhood that unapologetically addressed the Mother’s role in the home. This book is filled with so much perspective and truth, which is so supportive and encouraging to those of us trying to be godly mothers in this satanic world. The book is filled with her (and her children’s) very own personal stories and testimonies. But not in a braggadocios way because ain’t nobody got time for that! But seriously, the personal stories and analogies are very thought provoking and bring much clarity.
One of the many things I took away from this book was the fact that I need to lighten up. The behaviors I find irritating or unsettling in my children are normal, which confirmed my recent convictions to just allow my children to be children. I can be a bit of a drill sergeant and not only does that hinder my relationship with my children but more importantly, their relationship with God. And concerning that, I was reminded of how our emotions and attitudes influence the spirits of our children. And by no means is that an excuse to let our children be manipulative (or bound with folly!), it’s just a sobering reality that should keep us on our knees. Which is another thing that I loved about this book. Sally talks about motherhood being a partnership with God. Which is true. Not only have we been blessed to assist God in bringing human life into this world but we’ve been given the noble task of nurturing their precious souls unto the Lord. NOTHING in the workplace can compete with that—Truly impacting generations for the better and ushering people into the kingdom. So, if you have a desire to be a good (godly) mother please check out this book because this review doesn’t do it any justice!
(Featured image provided by pixels.com It reminds me of how we were once caught up as prey without even realizing the bigger picture including those around us who were free in Christ producing much fruit! I’m sure the photographer wasn’t trying to capture all of that but this is what came to my mind when I saw this image 🙂 Anyway..)
“Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.” (1 John 2:15-17)
I want to take some time to talk about coming separate from this world because recently I had to come to terms with the fact that I was lukewarm. And a lot of us are lukewarm— claiming to be Christians when our lifestyles are no different from those who blatantly reject God. But before I get into coming separate from this world, I want briefly explain what I am referring to as “The world”.
When I mention the world, I am talking about the society’s system of resources, values, priorities and philosophies that are influenced by the devil. Since satan is the god of this world (according to scriptures like Matthew 4:8-10), he is the one orchestrating the ideas and moves of the people. Whether they know (or believe) it or not, those who aren’t in Christ (and Christians who aren’t abiding in the Spirit!) are being deceived (and employed!) by the devil.
We know that God’s children do not make a practice of sinning, for God’s Son holds them securely, and the evil one cannot touch them. We know that we are children of God and that the world around us is under the control of the evil one. (1 John 5:18-19, NLT)
Therefore, being a friend or in agreement with the ways of living AND THINKING like the world (or the cultures around us) puts us in direct opposition to God and His standards (which are clear in the bible).
Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. (James 4:4)
So what am I saying? Am I saying that we have to live like the Amish? No, because Jesus sends his disciples out into the world (John 17:6-26, Matthew 28:16-20). What I’m saying is, is that we have to repent, and stop living like we don’t know what the bible teaches!
Like I mentioned above, this is how a lot of us have deceived ourselves into believing that we are Christians when in reality we are enemies of God.
But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves. For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass: For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was. But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed. (James 1:22-25)
Since we know that coming separate isn’t literal (because again, Jesus sends us out into the world), we know that it means forsaking fellowship with unbelievers (fake Christians!) and being delivered from evil.
When I wrote to you before, I told you not to associate with people who indulge in sexual sin. But I wasn’t talking about unbelievers who indulge in sexual sin, or are greedy, or cheat people, or worship idols. You would have to leave this world to avoid people like that. I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people. (1 Corinthians 5:9-11, NLT)
It’s a sanctification process. This is what being holy and set apart (or separate!) is all about!
And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. (Romans 12:1-2, NLT)
Just think of how many commands and directives (like women wearing head coverings to church) have been tossed out the window because we’re evolving with the culture. When we’re of the world, we think like the world. God is the same God of Israel. He’s still holy and His desires haven’t changed. If we truly want to be followers of His son Jesus Christ then we have to DENY OURSELVES and walk in righteousness. We can’t be worried about our own opinions or interpretations and social rankings.
“So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. (Matthew 6:31-32, NLT)
So basically it all boils down to this, if you want to come separate from this world, just read your bible and with the power of the holy ghost start DOING what it says. The results are inevitable.
Homemaking is a blessing but it can be challenging so I want to briefly share 5 things that I believe can help combat that burnout.
#1 Staying connected
Community is everything! Even if it’s just chatting online with bloggers and YouTubers. Surrounding ourselves with other homemakers keeps us focused on what it true and important. You are not alone. We are each other’s motivation and inspiration.
#2 Getting rest
Whatever that looks like for you. It could be reading, working on a hobby or literally taking naps. The point is, we have to rest on the regular and being at home gives us the liberty to do so.
#3 Eating well
To piggy back on #2, whole foods and good sleep are necessary. They go hand in hand. Try meal prepping the things you like (so all you have to do is grab and go). We can not afford to skip out on what gives us energy.
#4 Getting dressed
To be honest, this is something that I am still working on. Sometimes I don’t even get dressed at all especially if I don’t have any errands to run. But we all know that we feel better when we look better. So perhaps we’re only feeling as crazy as we look. For some, getting dressed is a must. And I’m sure that they’re much more productive (and attractive to their husbands).
#5 Having an agenda
Speaking of being productive, we all know that a day started without a plan will most likely be wasted. So if you are an inconsistent person, start by writing down the tasks that you would like to accomplish within that week. As long as you’re getting stuff done you don’t need an overwhelming detailed daily planner or calendar.
So, I hope that these tips help. I’m praying for you all because I know that everyone’s situations and families are different.
With much love,
As I transition into a more “homesteadish” lifestyle, there are some things including fruit preserves that I have decided to stop buying. This recipe is not only good (and easy!) but it’s guilt free! So I hope that you try it and if you do let me know what you think.
2 cups chopped strawberries (or mixed berries)
1/2 cup honey
3 Tbsp chia seeds
2 Tbsp lemon juice
Heat the berries in a medium sized saucepan over medium-high heat stirring occasionally until the berries begin to caramelize and get all syrupy (about 10 minutes). Mash the strawberries with a potato masher to your desired consistency (I like chunks of fruit in mine).
Turn the heat off and move the saucepan to another burner then pour in the lemon juice and the honey (feel free to add more honey to your liking). Now, stir in the chia seeds and allow the mixture to cool down completely before canning.
This recipe makes about 10 ounces (a little over a cup) which will last my family about a week but you can definitely store it in the refrigerator for up to a month. Also, this jam will not thicken as much as those with pectin (and loads of refined sugars!) would but the chia seeds will swell and thicken it up good enough. Yum (just thinking about it). Don’t believe me just ask my son!
“Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:24-25, NLT)
A while ago I posted on why I left the church and I just want to take the time to clarify some things. Now just because I’ve stopped associating with typical church people, doesn’t mean that I’ve isolated myself from the TRUE church or body of believers. I’m not crazy. “One who has isolated himself seeks his own desires; he rejects all sound judgment.” (Proverbs 18:1, NET)
As a matter of fact, my husband and I have found a deliverance ministry that we pray to become a part of. We understand the importance of fellowshipping with like minded believers. I am always praying to be connected with the saints. Especially with my sisters, that’s one of the reasons why I created this blog♥ But the truth of the matter is that your every day (on every corner!) church has conformed to this world and is full of idols and vain worship. So I’m going to share what my husband and I have been looking for in a congregation to determine whether or not they’re apart of the remnant or just some “christian” organization. Hopefully, this will also help some of you out.
Now, the first thing that we look for is Sound doctrine.
If any man teach otherwise, and consent not to wholesome words, even the words of our Lord Jesus Christ, and to the doctrine which is according to godliness; He is proud, knowing nothing, but doting about questions and strifes of words, whereof cometh envy, strife, railings, evil surmisings, Perverse disputings of men of corrupt minds, and destitute of the truth, supposing that gain is godliness: from such withdraw thyself. (1 Timothy 6:3-5)
Many are merely hearers and not doers of the Word so like that house build upon the sand, many churches aren’t built upon what Jesus teaches. They claim to be “Bible based” but they’re really just founded on man’s opinions and interpretations of it. So with that being said, find a place that preaches holiness, and that doesn’t have any taboo topics like demons or repentance.
Preach the word of God. Be prepared, whether the time is favorable or not. Patiently correct, rebuke, and encourage your people with good teaching. For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and will look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear. They will reject the truth and chase after myths. (2 Timothy 4:2-4, NLT)
The power of God
This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. (2 Timothy 3:1-5)
Nowadays everyone is claiming to be a Christian but no one is overcoming sin or physically healing others. All we do is TALK but real believers posses real power and authority from God. Let them keep them motivational speeches.
For the kingdom of God is not in word, but in power (1 Corinthians 4:20)
This could be a post in itself but all I’m going to say is that when looking for a place to fellowship we need to make sure that the church is being ran properly. For instance, sin should be addressed and error should be rebuked. They should be following the examples of the apostles and early churches not evolving with the culture.
Love and Humility
A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. (John 13:34-35)
One thing that will be different about a congregation of people who are truly following Jesus is their humility and love for other people. We are so used to reserved, mean church cliques that we forgot that the greatest among us should be the servants.
But Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them. But among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first among you must become your slave. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Matthew 20:25-28, NLT)
True followers of Jesus Christ humble themselves by lying down their lives to serve others. And true leaders aren’t too proud to (first speak!) repent publicly or to receive deliverance. Now of course they should be above reproach, but no one has no more to learn or to grow.
People of prayer and repentance
We should be gathering to pray and to edify each other. Not to be listening to the choir sing secular “gospel” music all day. Find a place where the people are dedicated to prayer. And I mean real prayer, not emotional (sensual), self seeking and eloquent vain prayer.
But anyway, these things are just a start. More importantly we all have to make sure that we are being led by God.
Your sister, Brandi
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So I had a birthday earlier this month and I wanted to share 30 things that I have learned by the age of 30. Now of course I’ve learned a lot more but here are the things I’ve chosen to share (they’re in no particular order).
1. Beware of self love/self care
This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves… (2 Timothy 3:1)
This world is influencing us to be selfish and self centered, when following Jesus requires us to deny ourselves and to love others. Even though taking care of ourselves is necessary, making that our number 1 priority or obsession isn’t.
2. You can overcome evil by doing good. The fight is and has always been spiritual. We aren’t truly having issues with other people.
Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. (Ephesians 6:11-12)
3. Ultimately, ALL sin is committed against God. So be mindful of how you act AND REACT towards others.
4.Cast down vain imaginations, immediately.
5. Popularity is not an indication of quality.
6. The wisdom of this world is foolishness.
7. Less is more.
8. Knowledge is not understanding.
9. Don’t live above your means.
10. I do not have to sin (or be a sinner). Jesus died so that I can live and be free to do and think the right things. See Roman’s chapter 6
11. Grace does not excuse sin. It assists in sanctification. Don’t let anyone deceive you. If you (or I!) die in willful sin, we will NOT inherit the kingdom of God.
12.Take it one day at a time. Say it with me, “Daily bread”.
13. Do not fear man.
14. I have issues.
15. A spouse (or a child) can’t fix internal issues.
When I was single I had an idolatrous desire to be married. I though that that would make me whole and happy. That didn’t happen. I learned very quickly that only Jesus can satisfy me .
16. Traditional holidays do not truly commemorate God. Research the origins.
17. Do not follow trends. Many are on the broad path that leads to destruction. Plus, emulations is a work of the flesh.
18. Be quiet. Fools vent too much
19. PUT SOME CLOTHES ON!
Wearing revealing clothing not only shows that I don’t respect myself, it also shows my lack of respect for others. Especially for families (marriages and children).
20. Don’t let your feelings govern you. I can do what is right whether I feel like it or not.
21. Men need respect. Quite frankly, they’re entitled to it.
and while we’re at it..
22. Feminism is ungodly. It’s perversion at it’s finest.
23. Sometimes you just have to cut people off— Starting with your own family members!
24. Read ingredient labels
25. Keep cursed objects out of your home.
26. Love the truth.
27. Jesus is the promised Messiah AND the Son of God. He is not The Most High God. Not according to him, the bible or to God Himself.
When Jesus came into the coasts of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, saying, Whom do men say that I the Son of man am? And they said, Some say that thou art John the Baptist: some, Elias; and others, Jeremias, or one of the prophets. He saith unto them, But whom say ye that I am? And Simon Peter answered and said, Thou art the Christ, the Son of the living God. And Jesus answered and said unto him, Blessed art thou, Simon Barjona: for flesh and blood hath not revealed it unto thee, but my Father which is in heaven. (Matthew 6:13-17)
28. My identity is hidden in Christ
I used to wonder who I was (or “Who Am I?”) because I didn’t know. But I knew that I wasn’t just comprised of a list of roles. Then I had a revelation.. I AM NOBODY because I have died to myself. My true identity will be found in Christ as I conform to him.
As for me, may I never boast about anything except the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ. Because of that cross, my interest in this world has been crucified, and the world’s interest in me has also died. (Galatians 6:14, NLT)
29. Dysfunctional relationships are not true love. They are ungodly soul ties. Sever them!
30. It’s the simple things in life— like wild flowers, rain and children playing♥
So, what are some things you’ve learned this year or wish you would’ve known earlier?
An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones. (Proverbs 12:4)
So I stumbled across this book at my local library, and I STILL can not believe how much it has impacted me. Now I don’t know much about the author, Martha Peace so I can’t really endorse her (or her trinitarian views) but that doesn’t take away from the fact that this book is the truth! Seriously, it is one of the best books I’ve ever read.
Through The Excellent Wife, Martha Peace seems to be the epitome of the Titus 2 woman by teaching us younger women EVERYTHING we need to learn to mature into godly women.
The wise counsel in this book definitely lives up to it’s sub title (“A Biblical Perspective”) because with scripture, Martha proves what God requires of Christian wives. And even though the standards are high, Martha demonstrates how with and by the grace of God they are attainable.
I have a notebook full of things I took away from this book because she addresses everything from idols in our hearts to sinful (but understandably painful) emotions that are enslaving us. One of the many things I loved about this book was how it mainly focuses on obeying the Lord’s commands which makes it applicable to any area of our lives. So with that being said, I would just recommend this book to women in general. But as a wife, the most valuable part of the book (to me) was on respecting our husbands unconditionally. The advice is tried and true. And I say that because my own husband immediately noticed (and received) my improvements.
So, if you’re working on becoming a better wife, check out this book it’s an “excellent” guide.
Much love, Brandi
Order The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace here
Being a mother definitely marks a new chapter in a woman’s life no matter how many times she may find herself with child. And for me, this time around has been very different because it is my first time breastfeeding.
I have been exclusively breastfeeding our baby girl Lauren for the past 10 months and have been wanting to give other first time nursing mothers a “head’s up”. So keep in mind that this is just information on how to get started. If you would like me to share more things on breastfeeding like how I pump or increase (and decrease!) my milk supply, my nursing diet etc. then just let me know and I’ll make additional parts to this post. But in the meantime let’s get started!
Now the first thing that I would recommend for those of you who are new to breastfeeding is Google. Yes, do your research and get familiar with breasts.
I read COUNTLESS books and articles while I was pregnant. I even watched (way too many!) youtube videos. Some of them were of animals! Now of course you don’t have to be that extreme but I would definitely encourage you to research the process and to examine yourself. The more comfortable (and knowledgeable) you are with your breasts the easier it will be learning how to breastfeed, especially from other people.
And speaking of other people,
Read blogs and talk to other women with experience.
Don’t get me wrong, “professional” opinions are okay but you want to get advice from people who are actually experiencing (or have experienced) what you will be. No shade but I prefer someone who could offer me a little more than book reports and word of mouth. But to each her own. If you are the type to get peace of mind from consulting with professionals, just make sure you’re getting help from EXPERIENCED doctors or nurses who are (or at least want to be!) mothers. And if you have friends or family members who have breastfed then that’s even better. I didn’t have anyone so I asked to have a lactation consultant come and talk to me during our stay at the hospital. She was very helpful. She helped me get through the first couple of days because the nurses were making my experience VERY stressful. Which leads me into the next tip..
Relax and get to know your OWN baby. Always remember that everything isn’t for everybody.
Like I mentioned before, researching is a good thing but setting laws and standards isn’t. Allow yourself time to grow. Especially at the hospital. Your baby is not only new to breastfeeding but to BREATHING in general. Be patient and gentle. Don’t let anyone, not even the doctors ruin your experience. For what it’s worth, a lot of the videos I watched on latching were useless. At least for me and my baby. And that’s the thing, you’ll learn what works best for you and your baby. Each and every family is different so don’t take everything to heart.
And speaking of the heart, Guard it!
We live in a very perverted generation where women think there’s strength in being masculine. Embrace your true femininity. There is nothing more beautiful than a submissive wife and selfless mother. You have to be encouraged because the majority of women will have that “I don’t know how you do it” attitude. Especially selfish mothers or women without children! Don’t be afraid to stand your ground. Even if that means telling your husband that you don’t want any visitors until you guys figure some things out.
Get a manual breast pump
This will be your best friend. Especially if you have a fast let down or an over supply of milk like I did. Trust me, get one while you’re pregnant and bring it to the hospital with you. And while you’re at it, grab a few nipple shields too!
Don’t buy into the hype
Now I have to throw this out there because there is nothing wrong with formula feeding! I didn’t breastfeed any of my older children and you wouldn’t know the difference (as far as development goes). Going forward my husband and I just decided to breastfeed because it’s natural and I am embracing godly femininity. Yes, I know that the food industry isn’t trust worthy but what I’m saying is, is just feed the baby. Don’t let pride and/or idolatry creep up in it.
And last but not least, don’t give up! Just pray.
I’ve noticed that a lot of the things I learned in the beginning were not even applicable until I was about 3 or 4 months in. That’s why we’re repeatedly told not to give up. Especially not within the first 3 months. It really does get easier. I wanted to give up SO many times. So ultimately, my advice to you would be not to give up when it gets tough, just PRAY! That is what has helped me the most. At the end of the day, no one can help you more with this than God. And not only because He’s GOD but because breastfeeding was all His idea!! He strategically designed our bodies to give (and to receive) His provision. So ask Him to help you and your baby do all that He had originally intended.
So yeah, I hope that this post helps! And I would love to hear all about your breastfeeding experiences or aspirations!
Jesus made it very clear that God expects us to forgive quickly and freely ..
If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins. (Matthew 6:14-15)
But let’s be real, knowing that doesn’t make it any easier. So I thought I would share a few things I’ve learned over the years that have made forgiving others easier.
So the first thing I’ve learned is not to take offenses personal.
See, when we realize that ultimately ALL sin is committed against God, we will begin to change the way we act, or in this case REACT towards others.
Do not avenge yourselves, dear friends, but give place to God’s wrath, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. (Romans 12:19)
When people sin, they can either repent and receive the same forgiveness of their sins as we did. Or they can (and will!) suffer the eternal consequences. Either way, we have to be at peace with all men. And that doesn’t mean that we have to trust or tolerate unrepentant sin. That just means that we can’t withhold love or forgiveness.
Another thing I’ve learned is that we really have to start trusting God. A lot of us think that we do but we DO NOT, AT ALL!
It can be hard to see the good in difficult situations but we should find comfort in the fact that GOD IS GOOD. And not in a cliche way, but in a way of if He allowed it, somehow it’s going to work out for my benefit in order to bring HIM glory.
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28)
We have to trust that. And speaking of giving God glory, God does not get the glory out of us being victims, or gossips and slanderers! Instead, we should learn to pray.
I’m learning that praying enables us to see beyond what was done to possibly why it was done. And trust me, I know the last thing we want to do is pray for those who hurt us or our loved ones but the truth is is that’s only because we aren’t abiding in the Spirit.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. (Galatians 5:22-23)
God is rich in mercy. So how can we say that we have his HOLY spirit when we aren’t producing any fruits of it? It’s because we either DON’T have His spirit or we need to humble ourselves. Which is another thing that I’ve learned—to humble myself!
Seriously, It’s easier to forgive as you consider your own debts! Do you guys remember the parable of the unmerciful servant?
Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents. But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made. The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt. But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest. And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt. So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done. Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses. (Matthew 18:21-35)
It’s like, NO MATTER WHAT, I too was (and am!) NOT worthy of God’s grace and forgiveness. I offend God and have hurt other people. Hey, I need Jesus! And maybe you already know all of this and just want closure. Well I’ll tell you this, closure does not depend on the other person. Lastly, I’ve learned that we can’t always physically forgive because of physical or “mental” distance. Sometimes we just have to forgive by faith. And that’s okay because it’s all about releasing people in our hearts anyway.
So, I hope that this post has encouraged you to forgive. Let us remember above all else that unforgiveness is sin.
We’ve all been there. In that tormenting place of despair. And to be honest with y’all, I have been a frequent visitor. So I may not know your personal situation or circumstances but I do know what it’s like to be losing (or trying to find!) yourself.
Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? (Matthew 16:24-26)
And that’s the thing, because this whole life process is basically about dying to ourselves in order to be found in Christ. So as you’re trying to fight the good fight, I just want to encourage you (and myself!) not to give up.
We WILL have tribulations! Nobody teaches those kinds of promises but the first thing I want us to remember is that as “Christians” we are supposed to be following the examples of Jesus Christ. And that means that as children of God we will have to endure some suffering.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, we must get rid of every weight and the sin that clings so closely, and run with endurance the race set out for us, keeping our eyes fixed on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of our faith. For the joy set out for him he endured the cross, disregarding its shame, and has taken his seat at the right hand of the throne of God. Think of him who endured such opposition against himself by sinners, so that you may not grow weary in your souls and give up. You have not yet resisted to the point of bloodshed in your struggle against sin. And have you forgotten the exhortation addressed to you as sons? “My son, do not scorn the Lord’s discipline or give up when he corrects you. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves and chastises every son he accepts.” Endure your suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is there that a father does not discipline? But if you do not experience discipline, something all sons have shared in, then you are illegitimate and are not sons. Besides, we have experienced discipline from our earthly fathers and we respected them; shall we not submit ourselves all the more to the Father of spirits and receive life? For they disciplined us for a little while as seemed good to them, but he does so for our benefit, that we may share his holiness. Now all discipline seems painful at the time, not joyful. But later it produces the fruit of peace and righteousness for those trained by it. Therefore, strengthen your listless hands and your weak knees, and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but be healed. (Hebrews 12:1-13, NET)
And remember, you are not the only one suffering!
Be sober and alert. Your enemy the devil, like a roaring lion, is on the prowl looking for someone to devour. Resist him, strong in your faith, because you know that your brothers and sisters throughout the world are enduring the same kinds of suffering. And, after you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace who called you to his eternal glory in Christ will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. (1 Peter 5:8-10, NET)
There is a WHOLE BODY of believers who are ultimately fighting toward that same heart, mind and agenda. And no it is not easy when our souls cling to the dust but the scriptures are TRUE . Remember, we are more than CONQUERORS through Jesus!
These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. (John 16:33)
I think a lot of us have a misconception about Tribulation. It’s like we only view it as great trouble or suffering caused by oppression or persecution. And that is true but when we start trying to crucify our flesh we don’t see that kind of agony as Tribulation. Which it is, these are the tests and trials the Bible speaks about. (In your own time review 1 Peter chapter 4)
So then let those who suffer according to the will of God entrust their souls to a faithful Creator as they do good. (1 Peter 4:19)
We have to remember that the battle is spiritual, and that we overcome evil by DOING GOOD (Romans 12:21). This is the whole point of being told not to get weary in well doing.
And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. (Galatians 6:9)
It’s all about endurance, and about having that HOPE and faith in God to know that we aren’t obeying (which according to the Bible is loving and worshiping) Him in vain.
Oh how I love this scripture: Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him. (James 1:12)
So lastly, I just want to remind you to guard your hearts with the truth. Because if we accept lies (in any form) our hearts are in danger of being hardened toward the Lord. Jesus told us that we can not serve to masters. So you’re going to have to pledge your allegiance to one or the other. And we do this by the way that we live our lives. Don’t let anyone deceive you, and don’t deceive yourself. Jesus has no pleasure in us being lukewarm. It’s unacceptable. It’s like would you accept being served lukewarm tea or coffee? I mean, i’m just trying to imagine this.
I know all the things you do, that you are neither hot nor cold. I wish that you were one or the other! But since you are like lukewarm water, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth! (Revelation 3:15-16, NLT)
So I hope that this post really helps us to refocus on what is truly important. I’m praying for you and I hope that you all are praying for me too.
Now I’ll be the first to admit that I do not have the greatest faith. This is something that I am working very hard to develop in. I’ve struggled A LOT with double mindedness, so I just want to share with those of you who can relate what I’ve been doing to make progress.
So number 1, (and these aren’t in any particular order. It really just depends on the season or situation that I’m in) I listen to the gospel.
So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. (Romans 10:17)
To be honest, I don’t always feel like reading the bible. So I am BEYOND thankful for people who are SENT to preach the gospel. And I’m not talking about self proclaimed pastors and female preachers on instagram. I’m talking about true followers of Jesus Christ who be teaching THE TRUTH. REPENT! And DENY YOURSELF the pleasures of this world!! Not only is their allegiance to God inspiring but the reproof immediately pulls me right back into the Spirit.
I read edifying books and blogs
I’m a big reader (and obviously a writer) so, it’s just right up my alley. I’ve learned (and have grown) so much from reading other people’s testimonies.
And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death. (Revelation 12:11)
I confess my sins to my husband
Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. (James 5:16)
There’s just something about admitting that you’ve messed up (or that you’re needing help!). And that is exactly how my husband has become my therapist😂 But seriously, he and my children know my intentions so they can just listen or respond with truth, prayer and love, instead of worldly wisdom (which by the way is just demonic and foolishness to God).
I pray in tongues
And speaking of prayer, one of the most effective ways to build OURSELVES up is to pray in tongues (if we have received them). Now I don’t do this as often as I should but when I do it’s like I’ve had an extreme makeover. I’m undeniably renewed.
But, beloved, remember ye the words which were spoken before of the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ; How that they told you there should be mockers in the last time, who should walk after their own ungodly lusts. These be they who separate themselves, sensual, having not the Spirit. But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost, Keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life. (Jude 1:17-21)
I watch near death experiences
Another thing I like to do when I’m feeling weary is to watch personal testimonies and near death encounters. Of course there is a lot of unbiblical foolishness on the web but there is also a lot of truth and encouragement. Near death experiences always produce more fear of the Lord in me. Which is a VERY good and necessary thing.
Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. (Ecclesiastes 12:13)
I have meaningful conversations (usually with my husband) about God’s will and character
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.(Galatians 5:22-26)
Sitting around talking about God’s will (and wrath!) is a for sure way to get my affections off of this world (or off of myself!) and back on Him. His ways really are perfect. So if you are struggling with abiding in the Spirit, I encourage you to just read Psalm 119. It quickens me EVERY time!
I write letters to Jesus
Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity. (Matthew 7:21-23)
This is something that I’ve just recently started doing and I am SO glad that I have . I really want to know Jesus personally/intimately. And I found out that he is so willing! Jesus literally responded to one of my letters and it took my faith to a whole nother level. This is more than journaling. This is like texting someone you’ve just met. It’s communication and its definitely strengthening our relationship.
So, these are the things that I am currently doing to grow in faith. I hope that something on this list can also help you on your journey. I love you my sisters, let us not get weary in well doing.
A fun fact about me is that I LOVE TO READ. I am always reading something! So with that being said, I thought that I would start sharing with you all what books I am currently reading. Right now, I have about 3 books in rotation but before I finish any of them I want to take a minute to share my thoughts on a book that I just finished: The Peaceful Mom by April Cassidy
Quick disclosure: I will only be reviewing books that in my opinion are worth reading. I am not going to waste my time (or yours!) reading (or mentioning) random books that aren’t edifying. So basically, you can assume that every book I review, I am recommending.
Just thought I’d throw that out there..
But anyway, many of you may already be familiar with April Cassidy, The Peaceful Wife. And if you aren’t, here is a link to her blog (you’ll want to thank me later but all glory belongs to God!). I have been following her ministry for about 3 years now and she has inspired me to humble myself as a woman and to become truly anchored in Christ.
When she shared that she was finishing up The Peaceful Mom, I was beyond excited because I often feel like I am failing in that area. And to be honest, I wasn’t that interested in reading her first book The Peaceful Wife because I assumed that whatever she was talking about would already be covered on the blog. But after reading this, I don’t even care. I’m going to read it because now i’m wondering what other provision God has provided through it for my marriage.
But that’s another post for another day. I’ll be sure to let you know but for now here are my thoughts on The Peaceful Mom!
First things first. This is not your typical (and carnal!) “How To” be a better mom book. This book focuses more on building your relationship with God than with your children (which I love!).
In the Peaceful Mom, April walks us through (with scripture!) correcting our negative beliefs, thoughts and emotions towards God, ourselves and toward other people (especially our children). She also teaches (or reminds) us that true peace can only be found in right standing with Jesus.
Now like I mentioned before, I wanted to read this book because I have been all over the place emotionally as a mother. And I’m also a step mother so I want to make sure to have a healthy and impartial relationship with my step daughter.
What I like about this book is that it features some of her own personal stories as well as testimonies from other men and women, which is encouraging because it highlights how even though our circumstances are different we all have struggles (and are overcoming!). Another thing I liked was how throughout the entire book she continually addresses sin and points us back to Jesus. That is also why I appreciate her blogs. April Cassidy know she be preaching the gospel!
But ultimately, what I took away from this book was, and I quote, “A peaceful mom knows God intimately and follows him wholeheartedly.” After reading The Peaceful Mom I not only found myself coming to repentance, but I also found myself respecting my husband as a parent AND my children. Obviously I recommend this book. It is a must read (even if you are a single woman without a husband or children). I will definitely be revisiting this book because it is full of prayer and wisdom.
So there it is! I hope that you guys enjoyed this book review because like I said, I’ll be doing them quite often. Also, I would love to hear about what edifying books you’ve been reading so please share them with me in the comment section! Much love!!
Since the holidays are right around the corner, I thought it’d be the perfect time to share with you all why I no longer celebrate them. So basically, I don’t celebrate traditional holidays anymore because I found out that they all have pagan origins. And I know that a lot of Christians still celebrate Halloween, Christmas, and Easter (really everything!) so keep in mind that I’m not trying to antagonize anybody. I’m just sharing with you all how I feel about it. But I would still encourage you to do your own research (and to study the scriptures to show yourself approved) because we are not only destroyed for lack of knowledge but for rejecting the truth.
“Even him, whose coming is after the working of Satan with all power and signs and lying wonders, And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved. And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness. But we are bound to give thanks always to God for you, brethren beloved of the Lord, because God hath from the beginning chosen you to salvation through sanctification of the Spirit and belief of the truth:” (2 Thessalonians 2:9-13)
Now since the holidays do not genuinely commemorate God, partaking in the festivities just for fun would all boil down to me being a lover of pleasure more than a lover of God. And I don’t know about you but I don’t want to deceive myself. I don’t want to be thinking that I know and love God more than anything when I really don’t.
“If someone claims, “I know God,” but doesn’t obey God’s commandments, that person is a liar and is not living in the truth.” (1 John 2:4)
Now that’s haunting! And if you TRULY know God then you already know that we don’t get to just worship Him however we want. We have to worship Him in spirit and in TRUTH and in obedience! So to me, celebrating pagan holidays in the name of Jesus is like offering up strange fire to God and it’s disobedience. The bible is very clear on coming separate and not conforming to the customs of this world. And God specifically told His people not to worship him the way other nations worshiped their idols.
“When the Lord your God goes ahead of you and destroys the nations and you drive them out and live in their land, do not fall into the trap of following their customs and worshiping their gods. Do not inquire about their gods, saying, ‘How do these nations worship their gods? I want to follow their example.’ You must not worship the Lord your God the way the other nations worship their gods, for they perform for their gods every detestable act that the Lord hates. They even burn their sons and daughters as sacrifices to their gods. So be careful to obey all the commands I give you. You must not add anything to them or subtract anything from them.”
So it is what it is. And it doesn’t matter what everyone else is doing. People have seared consciences, that’s another reason why I’ve decided to stop following the traditions of men and to start following Jesus!
Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ. (Colossians 2:8)
It can be frustrating, and ultimately heartbreaking when your children seem to have no genuine interest or affection for the Lord. This is something that I have been experiencing lately. All of my kids believe in God but one of them in particular just isn’t that enthusiastic about living a true Christian lifestyle. So I thought that I would share with you all how I’m able to be at peace with it all.
Now first of all, I just want to address the fact that we are NOT exempt from having unbelieving children. There were plenty of godly people in the Bible with perverse offspring . I know we like to believe that out of all these people in the world, that our entire families are going to be part of that FEW saved by the Lord. But don’t be naive, Jesus himself told us that households will be divided so it would be wise to take in the full counsel of the Word and let the scriptures sober us.
“Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” (Matthew 10:34-37)
Now does this mean that we can or should just give up hope and throw our children over to the wolves ? Of Course not. Especially if you have young children like mine who need to be stewarded. What this means is that we are not to love our families more than we love God because if they really do decide to reject Him we’ll either try to override their free will or shrink back in fear and compromise (usually by tolerating their blasphemy and/or worldliness). And I’m not gone lie, whenever any of my kids start acting all nonchalant about the things of God naturally I just want to freak out. But as I really begin to pray for them that burden I think I have to carry as a parent is lifted.
“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)
And that’s the thing, I can have peace knowing that the battle is truly not mine to fight. My job is to simply pray without ceasing and to live out the gospel (and not because my children are watching but because I fear God and because Jesus is the Lord of my life). That is what’s important because if we can just be honest with ourselves, we are probably the main reason why our children aren’t interested. Maybe you came to the Lord when you were older so your children are already grown. Or maybe you were just a little too zealous like I was and repelled them off with MANY words! See I used to think that I was the holy Spirit and that it was my job to convict my children of their sins and to reveal all kinds of “truth” to them. But I must’ve forgotten that I don’t have any power. I couldn’t even change myself! So I just needed to BACK OFF and let GOD be God.
But anyway, ALL OF THAT just to say that at the end of the day all we can do is work out our OWN salvation with fear and trembling and pray that they’ll do the same.