So yesterday was my anniversary and in honor of us entering into our 4th year of marriage, I thought it would be fun (and helpful!) to share 3 things that have strengthened our relationship.
1. Being selfless
My husband and I have both come to the knowledge and understanding of the Lord Jesus Christ. So self denial (denying the flesh) has been essential to every part of our lives, including (or especially!) our marriage. We are ALL selfish and self absorbed by nature but unfortunately most of us don’t even realize that we are and have always been until we get married. So, with that being said, my first tip is to put your spouse’s needs above your own without conditions and without any expectations.
Now my husband and I talk and have always talked about any and EVERYTHING, to the point where we had to repent and start holding each other accountable for idle conversations and just straight up gossiping. But at the end of the day, we have to express ourselves in order to make sure that we are on the same page (or at least working toward the same things). Also, we have to not only acknowledge but HONOR the fact that men and women usually communicate in different ways.
There is so much peace and joy in the home and in the marriage when you and your spouse are trustworthy. And this doesn’t just happen because you’re in love. You have to fear the Lord and walk in His ways first.
4. Encouragement (A bonus from my husband)
As I ran through an overview of this post with my husband, he told me to mention how it is also important to allow your spouse time to grow. Looking back, I can’t even believe that my husband and I hooked up because we are nothing like the people we once were.
This is a witness to the fact that God can and will change those who are willing. And it only gets better as you’re continuously being refined and conformed to the likeness of Christ. So basically, what he’s saying is, let God be God (and let satan be satan!). Our jobs as wives are to HELP not accuse or hinder our husbands.
So, I hope that you consider this post and if you have any tips on a healthy marriage please let us know!
Much love, Brandi