My daughter Janelle is 8 years old, and she has some beautiful, long and healthy natural hair. But her hair hasn’t always been this long or this healthy because when I was in the world I didn’t know how to care for my own hair let alone hers! So anyway, I want to share what I’ve been doing just in case any of you are also on this healthy hair (and hair growth) journey.
1. I wash and deep condition her hair weekly
Every Sunday, I wash her hair and deep condition it with a hydrating hair mask. And after I’m done I dry it with an old maxi skirt (or t shirt). I do not use dry off towels, and I finger detangle her hair while I’m applying the deep conditioner.
2. Moisturizers and protective styling
Either every morning or every night before bed (depending on how her hair looks and feels) I apply a moisturizer and an oil to seal her hair. We both use the Mielle Organics Avocado hair milk as well as some regular avocado oil from the grocery store. This is a must! Because dry and frizzy hair is a recipe for breakage.
The next thing I do is also very important. I believe that protective styles and deep conditioning is what has done the most for her strands (meaning restoring them and retaining their length). So I keep her hair protected in loose buns, which she loves just as much as she enjoys wearing her hair down.
3. I model godly femininity before her
Now ya’ll know me (if you follow my blog!), everything we do needs to be done to the glory of God. Raising godly daughters in this perverted and superficial world can be very challenging, especially when we have struggles and insecurities of our own. So I teach my daughter (from the bible and by being) that beauty as we know it is not of God (It’s seduction and deception!). I teach her that true femininity is about being modest (godly) and helpful (not hindering or competitive!). Now of course, she still wants to put on a floral dress and do something cute to her hair (we all do!) and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as it doesn’t become an obsession or our identity is found in all of that. Also, I make sure that I’m kind to myself, and that I compliment other women and their unique features (like freckles etc.) in front of her. That way she can learn to embrace the diversity which in return (or subconsciously) will encourage her to love and to embrace herself.
So yeah, I hope that these things help you on your journey. May God bless you and all of your beautiful daughters 🙂
Much love, Brandi
♥♥By the way, here’s some more natural beauty tips for Christian women