Being a Joyful Homemaker

Let me just start off by saying that I LOVE being a wife. I LOVE being a mother, and I am VERY passionate about Homemaking. But the truth is.. I am NOT always “happy”! It’s like I love serving my little family but sometimes I find myself irritable (impatient), frustrated and just flat out overwhelmed. It’s easy to get lost in the day to day routines but we have to keep our eyes on Jesus. Because when we begin to lose sight of why we’re truly doing this, our hearts will become achy and sinful. So, with all that being said, I just want to share a few things that I do in order to remain joyful.

1. I work wholeheartedly as unto the Lord.

Whatever you do [whatever your task may be], work from the soul [that is, put in your very best effort], as [something done] for the Lord and not for men, knowing [with all certainty] that it is from the Lord [not from men] that you will receive the inheritance which is your [greatest] reward. It is the Lord Christ whom you [actually] serve. For he who does wrong will be punished for his wrongdoing, and [with God] there is no partiality [no special treatment based on a person’s position in life].” (Colossians 3:23-25, AMP)

In a previous post I mentioned how the heart of Homemaking was God’s. And it’s true, because before I came to the Lord my heart was in something else (work!). And yes, there are a lot stay at home wives and mothers of the world but unless we’re truly serving the Lord our motives stem from pride and/or idolatry. So anyway, whenever I find myself in a funk or feeling worthless, I just remind myself that being a Homemaker is God’s will.  The joy of the Lord is truly my strength because at the end of the day, I just want to be acceptable and pleasing to Him.

2. I guard my heart.

That means I’ll cut off anything (or anyone!) that disrupts my peace. And I’m very cautious of social media. I used to be very double minded. I used to covet and fret over evil doers. So trust me, if you’re sitting around watching worldly women build their empires, you’re asking for it. You need to unfollow these unbelievers (immediately!) and start “following” Jesus!

3. I count (and recount!) my blessings.

Sometimes I just look around my house and thank God for a bunch of healthy, laughing children and a fine man that loves me and Him. I remember praying for the things that I despise (or take for granted) now. So learn to live in the moment. Gratefulness combats comparison and discontentment.

I could go on but I want to prove everything I suggest in my own life first. So, I hope that you take these things into consideration and stop letting the world steal your peace and joy in Homemaking.

Much love,

Brandi Collins

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If you’re interested, I also blogged on what to do when staying home becomes boring and/or stressful!

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Do you truly love God?

And so the Lord says, “These people SAY they are mine. They honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. And their worship of me is nothing but man-made rules learned by rote.” (Isaiah 29:13, NLT)

Now this post is going to be a little different because I’m just going to let us examine our own selves in light of the scriptures. But before I leave you with a few scriptures to consider, I just want to bring something very important to your attention.

Idolatry is a work of the flesh..

Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,  Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.” (Galatians 5:19-21)

So just because you go to church (and are all up the pastor and his family’s butt!) doesn’t mean that you love God. The flesh wants to worship something (and to be entertained!). So you could just be worshiping the bible and the idea of Jesus Christ in vain. Jesus told us that God is spirit, and that true worshipers will worship Him in spirit and in truth. This is why we have so many false believers. Because we can not love or worship God in the flesh (with our carnal minds and physical senses).

But the hour cometh, and now is, when the true worshippers shall worship the Father in spirit and in truth: for the Father seeketh such to worship him. God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.” (John 4:23-24)

A lot of people have deceived themselves into believing that they love God because they’re all in their emotions and they FEEL like they do. But according to Jesus Christ, we truly love him and his Father when we willingly obey their commands.

So, here’s a few scriptures to consider. Let us take heed and let us truly examine ourselves.

With nothing but love,

Brandi

As we arise each morning, let us determine to respond with love and kindness to whatever might come our way. (1)

 

(John 14:21-24) “Those who accept my commandments and obey them are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them. And I will love them and reveal myself to each of them. Judas (not Judas Iscariot, but the other disciple with that name) said to him, ‘Lord, why are you going to reveal yourself only to us and not to the world at large?’ Jesus replied, “All who love me will do what I say. My Father will love them, and we will come and make our home with each of them. Anyone who doesn’t love me will not obey me. And remember, my words are not my own. What I am telling you is from the Father who sent me.”

(1 John 4:20) “If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?”

(1 John 5:1-5) “Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ has become a child of God. And everyone who loves the Father loves his children, too. We know we love God’s children if we love God and obey his commandments. Loving God means keeping his commandments, and his commandments are not burdensome. For every child of God defeats this evil world, and we achieve this victory through our faith. And who can win this battle against the world? Only those who believe that Jesus is the Son of God.”  

(1 John 2:15-17) Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.” (1 John 2:15-17)

(John 15:9-14) “I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love. When you obey my commandments, you remain in my love, just as I obey my Father’s commandments and remain in his love. I have told you these things so that you will be filled with my joy. Yes, your joy will overflow! This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.  You are my friends if you do what I command.

(Luke 9:23-26) “And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: but whosoever will lose his life for my sake, the same shall save it. For what is a man advantaged, if he gain the whole world, and lose himself, or be cast away? For whosoever shall be ashamed of me and of my words, of him shall the Son of man be ashamed, when he shall come in his own glory, and in his Father’s, and of the holy angels.”

(1 John 4:17) “Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world.” 

(James 1:22-25) “But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves. For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass: For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was. But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.” (James 1:22-25)

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The Heart of Homemaking

So I just want to take a minute to encourage those of you who also stay home because I know what it’s like to get weary in well doing. When we’re so caught up in the mundane things, it’s easy to lose sight of what we’re truly doing. There have been plenty of times that I’ve felt like my life had no value because I couldn’t see how cooking and cleaning (and decorating my house!) bared any fruit for the kingdom. But I’m here to remind you that we as wives and mothers (or just women in general), we may be the heart of the home but the heart of Homemaking is God’s. Yes, homemaking is His desire for us because if we can just be honest, our desires are (or were) to be out in this world making a name for ourselves. But contrary to what society may believe, it is a GREAT work raising arrows and creating an environment that fosters godliness.

Don’t let the world (or your own carnal mind!) corrupt your perspective on Homemaking. Remember that this world despises Jesus Christ, men and apparently children (with all of this abortion stuff)! When we’re abiding in the Lord our presence is light in the darkness and our homes can be a peaceful place in the chaos. In addition, Homemaking has eternal value. So just keep working wholeheartedly as unto the Lord unnoticed (and sometimes even unappreciated!) knowing that your reward will be in heaven..

You are SO precious girl! May the Lord preserve your heart and mind in Jesus Christ.

Your sister,

Brandi Collins

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Here’s to cleaning the kitchen, again.

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Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.” (Proverbs 31:10-31)

How to Teach our young Daughters about Modesty

 

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Me and my 8 year old daughter, Janelle.

Now this post isn’t going to be that long because truly teaching our daughters how to embrace godly femininity is really only taught by (or through) being. So with that being said, I’m just going to share a few things to keep in mind as we foster their modesty.

1.  Remember that Modesty is about Character, not clothing.

A lot of professing Christian women believe that covering themselves up is legalism and/or bondage. But those of us who are truly walking with the Lord know that God is not pleased with any of this SELFishness or nakedness. We KNOW, that there is (and will always be!) a CLEAR distinguish between the women of this world and the women who are in Christ. Just the simple fact that these women still think that it’s okay to emulate celebrities (or other worldly women on social media) shows that they do not have the mind of Christ, and that they aren’t abiding in his Spirit. As Christians, we want to be conformed to the righteousness of God (which is found in Christ). And that transformation starts from the INSIDE out.

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” (Romans 12:1-2)

2. Again, remember that we teach directly (and  indirectly) by being.

When we ARE modest (humble AND SUBMISSIVE) at heart, we won’t (and eventually won’t even desire to..because yes, it is a process!) dress OR BEHAVE in ways that are indecent or improper (for those professing godliness). This includes wearing revealing things that emphasize our figures, and draw insecurity out of other women and/or sexual attraction from men (and unfortunately other women as well). When we are being (as in living) modest, it’s like our daughters will inevitably inherit or derive those qualities (if we’re raising them).

 The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.”            (Proverbs 20:7)

3. Have fun (meaning delight in the things of the Lord), make Modesty look and feel as good as it is!

Remember that we’ve come to embrace godly femininity because our eyes have been opened by God enabling us to see in the spirit (things for what they are!). But our daughters are just children. And they are very vulnerable. Every way and where you turn sin is being glamorized (glorified). And if it’s hard for us being grown women to embrace our natural beauty with all of this brainwashing then what do you think our daughters are up against. Most likely, her favorite doll, character and/or TV personality is Antichrist suggestive. So it’s our job (especially as women) to make the gospel look attractive.

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good thingsThat they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” (Titus 2:3-5)

Practically, I try to take good care of myself because my daughter notices every little thing I do (and don’t!) do. I also give her a healthy amount of compliments and invite her in as much of my personal (womanhood) life as I can. For instance, I involve her in shopping for our clothes and beauty products so that she gains confidence and some individuality. Yes, I let her have her own identity. As long as it’s in Christ and I’m teaching her what that means.

She already knows that our private parts are called private for a reason and that it’s offensive to be out in public naked (or half naked!). She also knows that true beauty is called TRUE beauty for a reason (because its REAL). It’s how God created man. We’re not clowns (or dolls). So it’s not makeup and/or fake hair!

But anyway, I’ve already blogged on all of that. I just hope that this post encourages you as you also seek to raise your daughters up in the fear and admonition of the Lord♥♥ (Group hug!)

Much love,

Brandi