A couple days ago I talked a little bit about being a joyful homemaker, and I shared a few things that I do in order to remain joyful. Now we all know that emotions come and go BUT JOY is something godly that is produced in you. It’s a fruit of the spirit.
“When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God. But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!” (Galatians 5:19-23, NLT)
That’s why I specifically blogged on how to REMAIN and not “How To be” joyful. We have to first receive, and then abide in the Spirit we’ve been given. So if you haven’t read that post I encourage you to go and check that out first because this post is just practical ways to keep your feelings of being overwhelmed at bay. This isn’t a cure for being discontent and overwhelmed. For that you need peace, and you need joy..
But anyway, let’s get into these suggestions.
Number 1. Prayer
Yes, of course I would start off by encouraging you to pray. We really need to grasp the fact that our lives MUST revolve around Him. ALL that we’re doing is being done for the glory of God. We’re not striving to be better wives and mothers (or just decent people in general!) for our own pride (well hopefully not). So with that being said, check in with the Father. And start truly casting your cares upon the Lord Jesus Christ. Not only does he care for you but he will SUSTAIN you.
Whatever that looks like for you. A nap, a snack, a hot cup of herbal tea! You are not God. We have limitations. So take a break! I promise that life will go on if you don’t clean the kitchen.
3. Get your priorities in order
In addition to the previous tip, I also understand that most of us would rather relax after all of our tasks are finished. But we have to be honest with ourselves. Is it because we’re struggling with perfectionism (which is sin), or maybe even the pressures of people thinking that we don’t really do anything all day anyway! Whatever it may be, as long as we’re tending to what really matters (like meeting your family’s physical needs) everything else can wait while we take a little break. Also (just a side note), when it comes to planning your agenda, try planning a To do list for the week opposed to daily schedules. This is what I’ve started doing when I get overwhelmed, and it feels so good having that extra space and time as I slowly but surely get everything accomplished.
(Speaking of prioritizing) Before I quit my job to stay home full time I was the store manager of a very popular clothing store. So I understand that when it comes to managing anything big (especially our homes!) we have to be able to entrust some tasks and responsibilities to other people. Even Beyonce’ has a team. And I know that she’s ungodly! I’m just trying to get the point across. What i’m saying is that it’s
okay NECESSARY to ask and accept help from other people. Give the kids some chores, and allow your husband to be the true leader that he is.
5. Be encouraged!
When you’re feeling overwhelmed it’s a good idea to start surrounding yourself with other Homemakers. And even if you don’t know any personally, trust me, books and blogs (and YouTube videos!) are sufficient.
And last but not least, Number 6. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
And I’m not talking about all of this worldly SELF love junk. I’m just simply encouraging you to be a good steward of your temple. Eat well, comb your hair, shave, give yourself a facial or a pedicure.. These things are revitalizing. And it is true to an extent— that when you look better, you feel better and when you feel better you preform better.
So, I hope that these recommendations help. I love you and I am praying for your strength.