3 Stay at home Date night Ideas for Christian couples

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Newly weds on a date!

When my husband and I first got married we did all sorts of exciting things together. We would go painting, and horseback riding.. and we would even go exploring historical parks and museums together!

But a lot has changed since then. We have been born again. And I’m not saying that any of those things are sin but a lot of things that people of the world typically do on date night is. For instance, going to the movie theater. We used to enjoy watching movies together until the Lord began to convict us. Now, we can see how we (as followers of Jesus Christ) have no business sitting around snacking with unbelievers watching all manner of sin and wickedness being glamorized glorified.  And speaking of unbelievers, it has also become more challenging to date now that we’re uncomfortable leaving our children with other people. So with our options slim and no where to leave the kids, I had just given up on dating altogether. But lately I’ve noticing my husband craving my attention. And I’ve heard him mention (more than once!) how he believes that dating (or alone time without the kids) is very important in marriage. So I’ve been trying to make dating a priority, and I want to share what we’ve been doing so far because it’s been working.

1. Couple’s  massages

Now my husband is always rubbing me down 🙂 He says that it’s relaxing to him. So I knew that it would be a good idea to just dedicate a whole night to giving each other massages. My husband’s work is very hard on his body so we invested in a massage table but that isn’t really necessary.  Just light some candles, heat up your massage oils and lay a towel on your bed (or floor!) and cater to your husband.

2. Charcuterie boards

When the kids are off to bed, assemble a charcuterie  board and have yourselves a little picnic. You guys can just catch up or simply play a game of scrabble (or something!). And just in case you’re wondering, I bought a cute little serving board from TJ Maxx but you can use a TV tray (or even a regular plate). Do what you can with what you have. Also, I assemble my board with an assortment of cured meats and cheeses. And I also add fresh fruit, dark chocolate, nuts, olives, crackers and hummus. Again, use what you can (and what you guys like). We normally already have these types of finger foods in the house.

3. Cooking (and baking!) together

Now me and my husband like to cook (and eat!) so partnering up to try new recipes is exciting to us. Get the kids situated with a pizza or something good (so they won’t desire what you guys are cooking for yourselves) and print out a recipe that sound delicious and have some fun in the kitchen!

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Me and my honey♥

I hope that these ideas have inspired you. Let me know what you and your husband do for date nights at home, I want to hear your ideas too!

Much love,

Brandi

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Social media had me in a bad place

Hey guys,

So the other day I found myself in a really dark place after looking at some beautiful pictures of some beautiful women I used to know and admire back in the day. On social media, it just seems  like everyone is SO BUSY living their dreams while I’m over here bored, being a nobody! Have you ever felt like that? Perhaps you’re feeling like this now… Well if you are, I want to share with you what the holy Spirit brought to my remembrance as I was in my prayer closet crying (yes, I was crying.).

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and

Did you read that? You see these people who love the world and who are pursuing their dreams (and whatever else their flesh craves!), these people are PERISHING. And they do NOT love God, whether they’re professing Christ or not! We have to remember this, and like Paul, we have to forget that which is behind us (our own selfish ambitions, reputations and desires) and press toward the mark for the prize of the higher calling of God. I am SO thankful for the gift of the holy ghost. What a comfort, and Spirit of truth he truly is. Seriously you guys, because the struggle is real!  But anyway, I just wanted to also encourage those of you who feel me in the Lord. Let us continue to fight the good fight knowing that our labors not in vain. Beware of social media.

Your sister,

Brandi

 

 

 

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Another scripture that I would like to share with you is, “Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him.” (James 1:12)

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*If you often find yourself coveting and fretting over evildoers than it may be a good idea to just get off of social media altogether (that’s what I did). There is nothing wrong that. You have to do whatever it takes to guard your heart.

 

 

 

3 Reasons why Single women shouldn’t prepare to be Wives

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2015, Sharing a picture of my engagement ring.

Let me just start off by saying that I am not discouraging single women from desiring marriage. I am a happily married woman, and marriage is honorable. My goal is to simply encourage my single sisters in the Lord.

Trust me, I may be a wife now but I still remember what it felt like being single, waiting for a spouse. So I just want to share a few things with you in hopes that they’ll help you focus more on the Lord (and not on yourself or on a spouse!) in this valuable season of your life.

So let’s get right into it..

Now the first reason why I believe that single Christian women shouldn’t be preparing to be wives, is because the truth is that you will never truly be prepared to be a wife.

Getting married is like having your first baby—You can read all the books, consult the most experienced mothers, child proof your home and even stock up on all the best diapers and bottles! But nothing that you do could ever prepare you for the unforeseen challenges of parenting your individual child. And it’s the same way with a spouse. You don’t know what his past held (or what his future entails!), so how can you prepare to be suitable? Being a good wife isn’t about being a “good woman” in general. It’s all about being suitable for your specific husband. And even if you are dating who you believe is going to be your husband, I can guarantee you that he is not all that God would have him to be right now. Marriage is a very humbling, refining process. So who you guys are now may not be what the other needs or will even be attracted to later! Both of you will go (or grow) through some very drastic changes (if you’re truly walking with the Lord). So the best way to prepare for anything for that matter is to receive the Holy ghost and abide in that Spirit.

 

(The picture on the left is from early 2016, when we first got married. The picture on the right was from a cpl weeks ago, and we’re STILL growing in the Lord!)

2. Men and marriage become idols

“For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.” (Ephesians 5:5)

You may not want to admit it but when we’re single we are VERY covetous. We want a man, a husband, a wedding, a “godly marriage”, a family etc. And eventually we become so consumed by those desires that we find ourselves discontent with just Jesus (we may even find ourselves jealous and hating on others!). Coveting is sin. And so is ungratefulness. Whether you ever get married or not, marriage is still beautiful and God is CERTAINLY still good.

3. Preparing to be a wife causes us to focus too much on ourselves.

When you spend your entire singleness focused on building yourself up or into something you in your own pride deems creditable or “good” you are just creating a big selfish (and haughty!) monster that will eventually have to die hard (unless it succeeds in ruining your marriage!). Marriage is all about serving, submitting, and refinement, so focusing on your SELF while you’re single (or as a follower of Jesus Christ in general!) is a BIG NO-NO.  And I’m not saying that you shouldn’t learn how to cook or be responsible with finances but these are things (like abstaining from sexual immorality!) that you should be doing anyway. I am completely against feminism, but you don’t need a man in order to obey the Lord or to be a good steward of your life and temple.

So I hope that you guys hear my heart on this. I love you, and I’m praying for your joy and strength!

With nothing but love,

Brandi

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When I was a single girl, I was so superficial. I just wanted to be a wife in general. Now all I want is to be “fit” for the Kingdom, and to be apart of the TRUE bride of Christ!

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