Being a homemaker: Why I quit my job to stay home full-time

“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”(Proverbs 31:27)

In a generation where being a “boss” chick takes precedence over assisting your husband and raising children, it’s no surprise that quitting my job to stay home full-time seemed to be anything but noble.

I remember old friends and family members being a bit concerned because financially speaking, we shouldn’t have been able to make that move. But that’s the thing, I didn’t become a stay at home wife or a homeschooling mom to try and keep up with the Joneses. My husband and I understood the seriousness of fostering a godly family.

We knew that there was no way for me to truly be attentive to my husband (or available for my children) working a full time job with crazy retail hours. And for me, the solution wasn’t to just get another job because taking a step down (or working part-time) in some ways still meant neglecting my God-given responsibilities.

You see homemaking is so much more than just lounging around in your pajamas all day long, and it is certainly more than just cooking and cleaning or doing NEVER ENDING laundry. So I want to share what it is that I actually do at home, and I hope in the midst to encourage some of you who are either new to homemaking or weary in well doing.

So first things first, being suitable for my husband.

Now I married a man who loves God and is seeking His kingdom and His righteousness, so that means that he is often a target for hatred and ridicule. My job is to not only BE but to create (and maintain!) a peaceful, loving and godly place for him to rest and to regroup after a hard exhausting day.

Now I don’t know about you but there is NO peace or love or gentleness or GOODNESS in and of myself. I get these qualities from walking very closely with the Lord. If I were still out  working some stressful and unfulfilling (or exciting and “fulfilling”) job, I wouldn’t have the time, energy or even the desire to spend my extra time praying and reading the Bible or marriage blogs! And I’m just being honest. Staying home allows me to go as deep as I want with the Lord, without any vain distractions or divided loyalty between him and work . The Lord is my foundation. So first of all, I spend my days at home seeking him. THEN I can begin to built or “make” my marriage pleasant with a renewed mind and with fruits of the Spirit.

“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” (Proverbs 14:1)

Discipling my children

Before I got married I was a single (and working!) mother of 3 children, so I understand that you have to do the best that you can do. But now that I am married with a working husband there is no need for me to work or to desperately allow my children to be raised by daycare providers and teachers unbelievers.

This world is blatantly pushing Satan’s agenda and I would be a fool to just volunteer my children over to the system. God has given us parents such an awesome (but big and serious!) responsibility to teach our children about Him and His ways.

It’s like we’re always looking for some grand opportunity to witness to somebody as we overlook our very own children who also need to hear AND SEE the gospel. And by no means does this mean that my children are perfect (or exempt from anything) but that’s okay because I’m not raising them upright for my own pride or glory anyway.

This life is not a game. And even though ultimately they have to live their own, my job as a parent is to lead them (by example!) onto the right path in hopes that they’ll go on to follow Jesus.

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

So yeah, this is why I quit my job to stay home full-time. And what a blessing it is to be able to commit like this!

Much love,
Brandi

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Being Modest: How I dress now after my encounter with Jesus

 

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On my way to a New Year’s eve church service, 2012

When I look at old pictures of myself I just can not believe how unseemly I carried myself as a woman claiming to be like Jesus. We, as in Christian women are so entangled in this world that now we’re dressing up vanity as Modesty which has nothing to do with apparel. We are being taught that being modest means throwing on a “cute” dress with some heels and some jewelry! But true modesty is about character. It’s about humility which yes, can be seen in the way we carry ourselves but it does not stem from how we dress. 

“I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.” (1 Timothy 2:9-10)

You see a woman who is truly modest will most likely go unnoticed because she isn’t trying to draw vain glory to herself, not even through her clothing. And I know that some of you may think that God isn’t that concerned about the outward appearance but in context, that is not true either. We are to glorify God  (not our flesh!) in our bodies and our spirit.

“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” (1 Cor 6:19-20)

I have been led to cover my body with long, loose fitting skirts and dresses because it is not God’s will that we be objectified or stumbling blocks to other people. 

Now just for the record, I don’t think that it’s sin for a woman to wear pants. Are there pants that are inappropriate and completely demonic!?? YES. But in a general sense I believe that the scripture being referred to here is really just condemning homosexuality and cross dressing. But then again, I am not God so my opinion doesn’t even matter. You have to make sure that you are being led by His spirit.

So with that being said, I encourage you to seek the Lord concerning the way you dress because there is no godliness or modesty in emulating celebrities or other worldly women on Instagram. I’m just sayin’…

With nothing but love,

Brandi

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Now, a typical outfit for me would be a tank top tucked into a maxi shirt, and when I leave the house I usually throw on a cardigan or my denim jacket. If you’re interested, I blog more about How To choose Modest apparel here

Being a Vegetarian: My advice to those of you being called to a plant based diet

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April 2016, When my journey first began

Let me just start off by saying that I have been a vegetarian for quite some time now but I can not front like I haven’t been back and forth on this for YEARS now! It has literally taken me 3 years to accept the fact that I have been called to a plant based diet.

 A lot of us are being led to change our diets so being a vegetarian I just want to encourage those of you who are on how to get started.

First, and foremost! Make sure that you are being led by God.

Selfish ambition is not only demonic (James 3:14-16)  but vanity in the eyes of God. And if God isn’t leading you to change your diet you will end up in bondage. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH EATING MEAT..

For every creature of God is good, and nothing to be refused, if it be received with thanksgiving: For it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer.

(1 Timothy 4:4-5)

The problem is is that God did not create what most of you are eating! If you want to eat well, just stop eating factory farmed animals and things being created by man!

Be discreet

Now i’m not saying that you have to hide the fact that you’re a vegan or a vegetarian. What i’m saying is, is that you don’t have to boast or make an idol out of it either. Trust me, no one cares. And the majority of professing Christians lack discipline so they just think you’re being extra, or weird. For instance, my family thinks that I’m crazy because I don’t eat meat when they’re the ones medically overweight or suffering from multiple diseases! This world is SO deceived. Just do yourself a favor and protect the way you eat.

Remember why you started

You will be tempted to AT LEAST reminisce about eating meat so if you end up eating a piece of a piece of chicken don’t tear yourself down about it. We should not be consumed with our every day lives so when you find yourself struggling (or giving up!) just remember why you started.

Eat what YOU like

You do not need to eat like fully raw Kristina. Of Course you should try new things (and have a well balanced diet!) but you can start with what you already enjoy eating. Don’t over think it. Focus on learning how to cook or you will end up just plain HUNGRY, stuffing your face with junk. Also, make sure that you meal prep because eating out limits your options and will have you meditating on “restrictions”.

So yeah, that’s pretty much it. Being a vegetarian has many benefits. Health wise it’s obvious but spiritually I am learning how to discipline my flesh and how to live as a minimalist. Now I don’t know exactly why or how long I can’t eat meat but honestly,  I don’t need to know. I just need to follow the Lord’s leading. If you would like to know what I typically eat in a day, just let me know and i’ll make a part 2 to this post.

Your sister,

Brandi

Being Humbled: My Head covering experience

Funny how we’ll jump head first (no pun intended) into anything that this world suggests but when it comes to this bible we claim to believe, every little thing is questioned. Now even though I am not here to debate head coverings because the scriptures are very clear on whether or not Christian women should cover their heads..

“But if anyone wants to argue about this, I simply say that we have no other custom than this, and neither do God’s other churches.” (1 Corinthians 11:16)

I just want to encourage my sisters who want to grow in the Lord to learn how to submit to something other than their feelings. The truth is, is that only a woman who is ignorant and carnal or vain would have a problem covering her head in public when its time to pray because we sure don’t have a problem tying our hair up in scarves to make fashion statements! 

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(I’ll use myself as an example!)

I started covering my head about a year ago but to be honest, it was mainly because I had cut all of my damaged hair off. I thought that my intentions were pure but as my hair grew, my confidence too and my true motives were exposed.

Now even though my head covering journey started off completely in vain, I have grown from covering my head in so many ways. First of all, it is humbling. Like I said, wearing a head covering quickly exposed the pride and vanity in my heart. And even though a woman choosing to shave her head (to feel empowered or liberated)  is shameful I believe that God allowed it to bring me low. It forced me to deal with my insecurities and now I am starting to embrace myself without validation from other people.  

Wearing a head covering has also been a blessing to my marriage. 

2017-11-29-12-10-17 (1)-1Through it the holy Spirit has taught me so much about submission and my position as a woman. Not only have I become passionate about honoring men and their GOD GIVEN authority over women, but I have learned how to “help” instead of hindering them with my physical appearance. I am softer (as in gentle) and quieter than I’ve ever been before and even though meekness is generally frowned upon, it is admirable to God.

“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;  While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”

(1 Peter 3:1-4)

Now as far as my prayer life goes, all I know is that I have had a desire to pray more but there are some amazing testimonies out there from other sisters who can confirm becoming more effective concerning spiritual warfare. If you’re one, I would love to hear your story so please share and may the Lord bless us all in pursuing His will 🙂

Much love,

Brandi

Being Natural: Why I no longer wear makeup or hair weaves

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Now I want to address this topic because there are a lot of women coming forth saying that God told them to stop wearing makeup, and there are also a lot of women who are truly pursuing the Lord and just want to know if they could or shouldn’t be wearing it. Now unfortunately, this is a very controversial topic and everyone’s opinions seem to be very biased but we have to be careful not to try and justify OUR OWN desires because our desires apart from God are satanic. They’re carnal!

We as Christian women really need to mature in the Lord because painting our faces and wearing hair sacrificed to idols (research Tonsuring and Chudakarma) shouldn’t even be up for discussion. Wearing makeup is worldly and it doesn’t produce any truth or righteous fruit. So no, I no longer wear it. What’s the use?

It’s vanity, which has no place in the lives OR HEARTS of those claiming to be like Jesus.

 “But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)

What’s in our hearts plays a major part in influencing the way we carry ourselves. So if you want to talk about the issue of the heart the issue of the heart is pride, no matter how you try to spin it!

We want to adorn our flesh because we aren’t abiding in the Spirit, and some of us are just so insecure that we’re seeking validation from this world.

I don’t care what’s trending or changing with the “culture”, the holy Spirit has never and will never inspire us to modify or to pervert God’s creation—that’s satan. When we try to “enhance” ourselves, in our hearts we believe that God didn’t make us good or “fun” and appealing enough. But who told you that!? Again, that’s a LIE straight from the devil himself!

Now am I saying that those of us who don’t wear makeup are going to heaven?  No. Not necessarily because being natural alone does NOT make you holy. God desires that we repent of living sinful lifestyles so understand that throwing out your MAC and bundles just a start! It’s been about 2 years now and I’m STILL transitioning so I can assure you that if you won’t even give up a tube of lipstick you have not truly given your LIFE to Him.

With love,

Brandi

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Why I left the “church”

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you. And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

 (2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1)

Now first of all, let me just start of by saying that this post isn’t really about why I left the “church” I was attending. It’s more about why I left the congregation of professing Christians in general.

See, there once was a time when I would shy away from admitting that I didn’t have a church home (as if going to church makes you a true believer) but what I’ve learned is to be bold and unapologetic about it because the true church has left the building.

Yup, that’s right! True followers of Jesus Christ are not hanging out in some government building being spoiled by philosophy and by vain deceit after the rudiments of this world or THE TRADITIONS OF MEN and not after Christ. So therefore, I have left the “church”, or I have forsaken the assembling of myself with church people—people who claim to know (and love!) God but are manifesting works of the flesh rather than fruits worthy of repentance.

I mean, what fellowship does a bible believing Christian have with contentious, carnal people who are not obeying the Lord’s commands but are busy building their own kingdoms (or brands!) here on this earth in the name of Jesus? I have met the REAL Jesus and I can assure you that the majority of professing Christians have not had a real encounter with (or revelation of) the living Christ!

These people are not truly seeking the Lord. They’re pursuing the pride of life while I choose DAILY to count it all dung that I might win Christ. And I’m not saying that i’m perfect or that I’m the only one. What I’m saying is is that I’ve been there and done that and have gained NOTHING.

I choose to live right. According to God’s standards, not according to people’s thoughts and/or feelings.

I’ve spent YEARS seeking the Lord and what I found is a HOLY God who isn’t interested in Sunday rituals or lip service.

And so the Lord says, “These people say they are mine. They honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. And their worship of me is nothing but man-made rules learned by rote.

(Isaiah 29:13)

He requires true REPENTANCE, we have to come separate! And that includes from vain, proud and ignorant congregations. So, with that being said, if you don’t take anything else away from this post just know that I’ve decided to quit playing church and to wholeheartedly follow the Jesus.

With nothing but love,

Brandi

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Our last Easter Sunday, 2016

If you’re interested, I shared how to choose the right congregation to fellowship with here