How to Teach our young Daughters about Modesty

 

20190609_092158_HDR (1)

Me and my 8 year old daughter, Janelle.

Now this post isn’t going to be that long because truly teaching our daughters how to embrace godly femininity is really only taught by (or through) being. So with that being said, I’m just going to share a few things to keep in mind as we foster their modesty.

1.  Remember that Modesty is about Character, not clothing.

A lot of professing Christian women believe that covering themselves up is legalism and/or bondage. But those of us who are truly walking with the Lord know that God is not pleased with any of this SELFishness or nakedness. We KNOW, that there is (and will always be!) a CLEAR distinguish between the women of this world and the women who are in Christ. Just the simple fact that these women still think that it’s okay to emulate celebrities (or other worldly women on social media) shows that they do not have the mind of Christ, and that they aren’t abiding in his Spirit. As Christians, we want to be conformed to the righteousness of God (which is found in Christ). And that transformation starts from the INSIDE out.

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” (Romans 12:1-2)

2. Again, remember that we teach directly (and  indirectly) by being.

When we ARE modest (humble AND SUBMISSIVE) at heart, we won’t (and eventually won’t even desire to..because yes, it is a process!) dress OR BEHAVE in ways that are indecent or improper (for those professing godliness). This includes wearing revealing things that emphasize our figures, and draw insecurity out of other women and/or sexual attraction from men (and unfortunately other women as well). When we are being (as in living) modest, it’s like our daughters will inevitably inherit or derive those qualities (if we’re raising them).

 The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.”            (Proverbs 20:7)

3. Have fun (meaning delight in the things of the Lord), make Modesty look and feel as good as it is!

Remember that we’ve come to embrace godly femininity because our eyes have been opened by God enabling us to see in the spirit (things for what they are!). But our daughters are just children. And they are very vulnerable. Every way and where you turn sin is being glamorized (glorified). And if it’s hard for us being grown women to embrace our natural beauty with all of this brainwashing then what do you think our daughters are up against. Most likely, her favorite doll, character and/or TV personality is Antichrist suggestive. So it’s our job (especially as women) to make the gospel look attractive.

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good thingsThat they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” (Titus 2:3-5)

Practically, I try to take good care of myself because my daughter notices every little thing I do (and don’t!) do. I also give her a healthy amount of compliments and invite her in as much of my personal (womanhood) life as I can. For instance, I involve her in shopping for our clothes and beauty products so that she gains confidence and some individuality. Yes, I let her have her own identity. As long as it’s in Christ and I’m teaching her what that means.

She already knows that our private parts are called private for a reason and that it’s offensive to be out in public naked (or half naked!). She also knows that true beauty is called TRUE beauty for a reason (because its REAL). It’s how God created man. We’re not clowns (or dolls). So it’s not makeup and/or fake hair!

But anyway, I’ve already blogged on all of that. I just hope that this post encourages you as you also seek to raise your daughters up in the fear and admonition of the Lord♥♥ (Group hug!)

Much love,

Brandi

DIY Lemon Facial scrub

Hey guys! So as I was getting ready to give myself a facial this morning, I remembered that I had never shared my recipe as promised (if you’ve been here a while then you know that I’m all about natural beauty AND natural beauty products!). So here’s my little DIY Sugar Scrub recipe. And of course, you can always add or adjust things to your liking 🙂

IMG_1921

Now this recipe only call for 3 ingredients—and that’s granulated white sugar, coconut oil and some Lemon Essential oil. You can use other sugars and oils, I do. This combination just works best for my face. The point is, you need an exfoliant (to exfoliate dead surface skin cells), a moisturizer (to nourish your skin),and something special to add some cleansing and/or health benefits. Essential oils are great because they’re naturally medicinal. Plus, they have (and add!) such lovely fragrances.

IMG_1922

Now the measurements are also something that depends on you. I usually just mix 1 teaspoon of each (sugar and coconut oil) with a couple (literally 2!) drops of essential oil. And that’s because I make my facial scrub as needed (as a single use). Obviously, you would use more to make a batch big enough to share and/or store. Also, depending on the consistency you like, that will also determine how much of what you will add. I like my scrub to be like more of a paste. So add more sugar if you like yours drier like sand.

IMG_1923

Once you’ve gotten that all figured out, just mix all of your ingredients together and apply it to your (damped) face (gently massaging your face in a circular motion). Next, wash it off with cool water. Then don’t forget to apply a little extra moisturizer.That’s it! Let me know if you try it out. And feel free to share some of your own DIY recipes with me!

Much love, Brandi

♥♥

Single ladies, PUT SOME CLOTHES ON GIRL!

Made with Square InstaPic

A picture of me when I was a single (professing Christian) woman taking selfies after getting dressed for church one morning. I should’ve been preparing my heart for worship, not for vanity and/or seduction!

So I was just explaining to another sister in the Lord how women wearing immodest apparel effects more than just men. I was telling her how I can barely take a family trip to the grocery store because I don’t want my husband OR CHILDREN exposed to all these naked women. And this is the thing (because the world is going to do what the world does), my issue is with all these professing Christians. Especially single “Christian” women who call themselves praying for a godly man and/or marriage.

You see, if you are still walking around half naked and selfish (thinking that it’s everyone else’s problem for looking) then you are NOT in Christ and you are NOT ready to be a wife! How can you be ready for marriage when you don’t even honor or respect other people’s marriages (and families!)?

And if you have not been faithful in what is another man’s, who will give you what is your own?” (Luke 16:12, NKJV)

And please understand that this post is not a rant because I remember being in that same self absorbed place as a single woman. I was in my own little world (totally unaware).  So even though there are a lot of whores out here, I understand that not everyone is trying to be seductive. Some are just ignorant. That’s what I was. And oh how I wish that someone would’ve told me to put some clothes on! I had no idea. I had NEVER considered the fact that I may have been offending married people (and corrupting their children!).

So this post is for those who have an ear to hear. Modesty is so much more than apparel. It’s about humility, and love for other people. It doesn’t matter how nice her body is (or how beautiful she may be!), a true woman of God will conceal what she has to if that’s what’s best for others.

Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit [through factional motives, or strife], but with [an attitude of] humility [being neither arrogant nor self-righteous], regard others as more important than yourselves. Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” (Philippians 2:3-4, AMP)

So don’t serve satan as a stumbling block. Consider what you’re wearing. And be honest, would you want your husband to notice another woman’s body? And I say notice (not look at) because not every man is full of lust. I can assure you that other women AND CHILDREN are noticing your nakedness as well. So humble yourself, and put some clothes on girl!

With nothing but love,

Brandi

♥♥ P.s If you really do desire a godly marriage, I want you to know that nudity repels godly men. If you’re interested, here’s a post on How To choose Modest apparel because this is also the reason why you’re feeling overlooked (or like you’re attracting the wrong men).

Zeeway Apparel

God does NOT like makeup

Now I’ve shared why I no longer wear makeup and fake hair but I want to revisit wearing makeup because this is something that a lot of women just don’t want to accept. God is not pleased with you painting your face in an attempt to enhance (or pervert, if you’re a man!) what He has created. If you would just allow yourself to honestly think of all the reasons makeup is worn, I can assure you that you will not find one righteous one. It’s demonic. It’s used to deceive, to seduce, to pervert, to manipulate, to pretend (costumes), to puff up (self esteem, which is pride!) and for pagan idol worship (ancient Egyptians, indigenous tribes, the occult, clowns and mimes etc.).  And for those of you who are trying to cover up acne, blemishes and scars, that right there proves that you are insecure and/or vain. Acne and other kinds of breakouts are indications that our bodies need to be properly cleansed or detoxed. And putting poison into your body (whether it’s cosmetic or food products) is not going to help. Not in REALITY. And scars show that we have been healed.  So if you’ve been burned or born with unique features (or you have just aged!) don’t be ashamed of your story. Makeup is ungodly. Let’s just be real, ya’ll know that we’ve picked this stuff up from the world. And it’s sad that we’re claiming to be so in love with God (or mighty in the Lord!) but when our appearance is threatened we will unleash hell.

And please hear my heart on this because I was there. I was the main one talking about, “This is my “Natural” everyday look.”

dsc_7643

2014, Me looking CRAZY with a lacefront wig! Taking pictures for my “Ministry” flyers.

Also, keep in mind that I am only addressing those who are professing Christ and godliness. We are supposed to be HOLY (set apart) and different but we’re being influenced by the world’s trends and emulating their celebrities.  Do not be deceived by those who say “Man looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart.” We need to not only read scriptures in context but we need to take the full counsel of God. The scriptures also say that the heart is deceitful above all things AND WICKED (Jeremiah 17:9), and that we are to abstain from the appearance of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22) and that includes worldliness. Yes, there are a lot of self righteous, head covering, white washed tombs out here probably judging you. But I don’t have anything to do with that. I’m just simply telling you the truth. God is not fond of your IDOLS—makeup, hair weaves, high heels and jewelry etc. It’s all vanity!

“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30)

And I’m not saying that holiness equates to homelyness and that we can’t (or shouldn’t) embrace [godly] femininity. We are BEAUTIFUL creatures and we enjoy beautiful things. And there is nothing wrong with that. God created us like that! That’s why satan is trying to kill, steal and destroy our roles and our identity as women. Don’t be ignorant of his devices. And start denying yourself the things your flesh desires! Trust me, your spirit has no need or desire for makeup, it’s all carnal.

This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.” (Galatians 5:16-17)

It’s a shame that us younger women don’t really have wise and pure older women to model after because most of our mothers and grandmothers are immature, busy bodies trying to keep up with the Joneses Kardashians. But nevertheless, it’s all laid out for us in the bible. May we open it and read it. And may we BELIEVE it.

With nothing but love,

Brandi

Flowers (1)

 

 

DIY Spa Pedicure (and why I don’t go to the nail shops anymore)

I want to share with you guys how I do my own pedicures at home but first I want to briefly explain why I don’t go to the Asian places anymore. So I no longer go to the nail shops (or eat at most Chinese restaurants!) because these people (the owners of these establishments) are obviously worshiping false gods. And you may think that I’m being a little dramatic but why do think there are alters in these places?? Religion is really commercialized in the western world but people in different cultures are very serious about worshiping and paying homage to their ancestors and gods (aka demons). For some, it’s just common sense. But for many of us, things like this have to be brought to our attention. So I’m challenging you to examine yourselves. How is it that you (if you’re claiming to be of God!) are so comfortable amongst such profane things in these shops and with eating food sacrificed to idols? Just something to think about.

 

But anyway, my DIY Spa Pedicure! Now I’ve been giving myself pedicures for the past 2 years now and it is so easy and inexpensive. Here is a list of the things I recommend you have, as well as the steps to my little pedicure routine.

 

Pedicure suppliesIMG_1781

1. A foot bath

Now I started off with one of those plastic dish tubs from the dollar store! Just recently, I worked my way to a real foot spa tub. So if you don’t have the budget to go all out, don’t worry about it (neither do I!). The plastic dish tub worked just fine. Honestly, the only reason I upgraded was because the water didn’t stay warm enough (or for too long).

2. A manicure set (or you can create your own by purchasing the items individually)

Just make sure that your set includes a nail clipper, emery boards, tweezers and a manicure (or cuticle) stick.

3. A pumice stone—this is a must! I got mine from big lots. I used to have a really good one from TJMaxx!

4. Some kind of foot soak. I just use a couple drops of Eucalyptus Essential oil

5. A moisturizer (preferably something creamy. If you’re interested, here’s the recipe to my DIY Lavender Body Butter that could also be used as a foot cream!)

and 6,7,8,9,10. Anything else you would like to personalize the experience. For instance, I like to light a pretty candle and add a handful of beautiful flower petals to my water. You could use flowers from your garden or buy them from the clearance section of your super market!

My routine

So first I RELAX, and soak my feet for about 10-15 mins. Then I cut my toenails and rub a little extra virgin olive oil into my cuticles (to soften them up). After soaking my feet for a few more minutes, I work on my cuticles then exfoliate the bottom of my feet with the pumice stone to my liking. Next, I file and shape my toe nails. I don’t wear any nail polish so this is the end where I would just pat my feet dry and apply something moisturizing. That’s it! And I always feel like a brand new woman.

So, I hope you consider all these things and let me know about some of your own natural beauty tips and/or routines!

With love, Brandi

♥♥In case you’re interested, I also blogged on..

Why I don’t wear make up and hair weaves

How I dress now after my encounter with Jesus

My Natural beauty tips for Christian women

How I care for my daughter’s natural hair

IMG_1686

Time for a trim! Which I do as often as she needs them.

My daughter Janelle is 8 years old, and she has some beautiful, long and healthy natural hair. But her hair hasn’t always been this long or this healthy because when I was in the world I didn’t know how to care for my own hair let alone hers! So anyway, I want to share what I’ve been doing just in case any of you are also on this healthy hair (and hair growth) journey.

1. I wash and deep condition her hair weekly

Every Sunday, I wash her hair and deep condition it with a hydrating hair mask. And after I’m done I dry it with an old maxi skirt (or t shirt). I do not use dry off towels, and I finger detangle her hair while I’m applying the deep conditioner.

2. Moisturizers and protective styling

Either every morning or every night before bed (depending on how her hair looks and feels) I apply a moisturizer and an oil to seal her hair. We both use the Mielle Organics Avocado hair milk as well as some regular avocado oil from the grocery store. This is a must! Because dry and frizzy hair is a recipe for breakage.

The next thing I do is also very important. I believe that protective styles and deep conditioning is what has done the most for her strands (meaning restoring them and retaining their length). So I keep her hair protected in loose buns, which she loves just as much as she enjoys wearing her hair down.

IMG_1693

3. I model godly femininity before her

Now ya’ll know me (if you follow my blog!), everything we do needs to be done to the glory of God. Raising godly daughters in this perverted and superficial world can be very challenging, especially when we have struggles and insecurities of our own. So I teach my daughter (from the bible and by being) that beauty as we know it is not of God (It’s seduction and deception!). I teach her that true femininity is about being modest (godly) and helpful (not hindering or competitive!). Now of course, she still wants to put on a floral dress and do something cute to her hair (we all do!) and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as it doesn’t become an obsession or our identity is found in all of that. Also, I make sure that I’m kind to myself, and that I compliment other women and their unique features (like freckles etc.) in front of her. That way she can learn to embrace the diversity which in return (or subconsciously) will encourage her to love and to embrace herself.

So yeah, I hope that these things help you on your journey. May God bless you and all of your beautiful daughters 🙂

Much love, Brandi

♥♥By the way, here’s some more natural beauty tips for Christian women 

Modesty thrift haul and more!

Since we’ve been talking a little bit about modest apparel and natural beauty, I thought it would be appropriate to share what I just bought from the Goodwill with you.  I am currently building a small capsule wardrobe so when I finish, I’ll share all the looks and details as well♥

Much love and prayers!

Brandi

♥♥If you’re new (or just interested!), here’s a few more posts on Modest apparel 🙂

How to choose Modest apparel

How I dress now after my encounter with Jesus

My Headcovering experiences

My go to headcovering style (tutorial)

My go to Headcovering style+a mini Headcovering haul

Hey Guys! So I thought I would share a very pretty and classy low bun headcovering tutorial in case anyone is new to covering their head during public worship (or just wanting more options!). Also, if you’re interested, here’s a link to my Headcovering experiences♥ 

Much love, Brandi Collins

♥♥Here’s a few more posts on Modesty:

How I dress now after my encounter with Jesus

How to choose modest apparel

Why I no longer wear any makeup or fake hair

My natural beauty tips for Christian women

 

DIY Lavender Body Butter

IMG_1648

Last week I shared some of my natural beauty tips as well as my must have beauty products. So I thought that I would also share how to make my DIY body butter that was mentioned. I do not buy lotion or use anything other than Shea butter (or carrier oils) on my skin. So here’s the recipe and of course, you can tweak it to your liking.

Ingredients:

1/2 cup of each raw Shea butter and unrefined Coconut oil

1 Tbsp each  Jamaican black Castor oil, Avocado oil, Extra virgin Olive oil

About 7-10 drops of 100% pure Lavender Essential oil 

Directions:

Melt all of the ingredients (accept the essential oil) in a double broiler or in a glass Pyrex boil on top of a medium sized saucepan (with about an inch of boiling water).

IMG_1631

IMG_1635

When everything has melted and blended together, turn off the heat and stir in your drops of essential oil(s). When the bowl is cool enough to handle, store in the fridge (or in the freezer if you’re in a hurry!) to solidify for a couple of hours.

When your mixture is solid. Bring it to room temperature. You don’t want it completely soft but you should be able to leave a little finger indent. Then, whip your mixture on high speed until you’ve reached your desired consistency. For me, that’s about 10 minutes.

IMG_1643

Again, you can adjust this recipe to suit your needs. Each and every ingredient in this mixture works wonders for my hair and skin (together and separately). Also, I like a creamy (and slightly oily) body butter because I have thirsty hair and skin. So if you find this recipe a bit too greasy, don’t use as much of the carrier oils or just keep your body butter stored in the fridge. Anyway, I hope you try it. And if you make any homemade hair and body products let me know. I’m looking for a good DIY deep conditioner.

Your sister, Brandi

♥♥ By the way, here’s some relevant posts:

My natural beauty tips for Christian women

Why I don’t wear any makeup or fake hair

How I dress now after my encounter with Jesus

How to choose modest apparel

My Headcovering experience

3 natural beauty tips for Christian women+ my must have natural “beauty” products

IMG_1532

Now if you didn’t know,  I don’t wear any make up or fake hair. I believe all of that stuff is ungodly and you can read more about that here. But just because I don’t wear makeup or dress in certain ways, doesn’t mean that I don’t have or understand the desires we as women have to look and feel pretty.

I never said that holiness equates to homelyness. No, we’re not supposed to obsess over our outward appearances but it is not a sin to look nice or presentable (according to what’s nice and presentable to God of course). So, I just wanted to clarify that and share 3 ways that I personally take care of my physical appearance.

1. By embracing our uniqueness

Let’s face it! We are called to be different. We are God’s very own representatives on the earth and God is HOLY. When you accept that painting your face is not of God and how we are told not to “fashion” ourselves after this world, then the holy Spirit can (and will) begin to direct you on what is and isn’t lovely and/or appropriate for those professing godliness.

“And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” (Romans 12:1-2, NLT)

As individuals,  we also have to accept what we were born with. For instance, I would prefer super long and thick healthy hair but my hair is super thin and currently shoulder length (I’m working on it!) but the point is, we may never have someone else’s skin tone, hair texture, body type etc. So we have to be content with who we are and in what we have.  And if it’s something you can naturally fix like your weight or my hair length then we have to be PATIENT. It didn’t take one day to gain 100 pounds  or to damaged your skin (or in my case hair!). So it’s going to take more than one day, one month or possibly even longer than one year for us to properly heal.

2. Eating well

Now this is also a very important tip. And as Christians, we should understand the concept of “FROM THE INSIDE OUT”. God, in all of His kindness and wisdom provided everything we need (through WATER, and every herb bearing seed and trees) to look and feel good physically. In addition to Genesis,  I know this to be true because I’m a vegetarian and I usually eat my food raw or cook every meal from scratch (And I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with eating meat. There’s not!).  Now I don’t do much physical exercise other than indirectly through household chores, but my husband has been my motivation to start working out.  He looks (and says he feels) SO good just from doing daily push ups and of course, eating well.  If you’re into fitness, I would love to hear what works for you. And if you’re interested in what to eat (or in what I eat) just let me know and I’ll share all of that in an additional post.

3. Using Natural Products

Now this goes hand in hand with number 2 because the products we use on our bodies are just as important as what we’re eating.  I try to just stick with organic products that can also be used to cook with. But of course, just like every other woman I get enticed by lovely smells and by beautiful packaging 🙂 So whenever I do buy commercial products, I just make sure to read all of the ingredients and labels. You will never look and feel your best if you’re continuously dumping poison into your skin and gut.  So I encourage you to just stop and think about that. You may think that someone vain is the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen but just wait until they take off all that make up and weave and all of that “trendy” clothing. It’s a deception. They don’t even want to see themselves like that. They might even be a man! It’s all lies and stumbling blocks. Beauty as we know it is NOT of God.

But anyway, that’s a whole’nother post. I  hope that you’ve enjoyed this one, and I want you all  to know that embracing (godly) femininity isn’t a crime, It’s a must!

With nothing but love, Brandi

IMG_1602

Now I literally just “woke up like this” (clear skin)

 

♥♥Here’s a list of my favorite, must  have products

Skincare:

African black soap and Shea Moisture’s Olive oil and Marula baby wash

My DIY Lavender body butter and my DIY Peppermint (or lemon) sugar scrub
Raw Shea butter
Unrefined Coconut oil
Avocado oil
Extra virgin Olive oil
Sweet almond oil
Castor oil
Vitamin E oil or capsules

Essential oils (100% pure essential oils can be expensive so I am slowly but surely building my collection. I have a few essential oils mainly for DIY household cleaning products but the ones I often use for bath and body are Lavender, Eucalyptus, Lemon and Peppermint.)

Hair care:

I am currently using ( and loving!) Shea moisture and Mielle products on my hair.  I definitely plan on making my own but for now it’s just trail and error. I  also use some of the oils on my hair that were mentioned above.

IMG_1540

♥♥Side note: If you’re interested, I also blogged on how I dress and How To choose modest apparel!

My Breastfeeding tips for first time nursing mothers

Being a mother definitely marks a new chapter in a woman’s life no matter how many times she may find herself with child. And for me, this time around has been very different because it is my first time breastfeeding.

I have been exclusively breastfeeding our baby girl Lauren for the past 10 months and have been wanting to give other first time nursing mothers a “head’s up”.  So keep in mind that this is just information on how to get started.  If you would like me to share more things on breastfeeding like how I pump or  increase (and decrease!) my milk supply, my nursing diet etc. then just let me know and I’ll make additional parts to this post. But in the meantime let’s get started!

Now the first thing that I would recommend for those of you who are new to breastfeeding is Google. Yes, do your research and get familiar with breasts.

I read COUNTLESS books and articles while I was pregnant. I even watched (way too many!) youtube videos. Some of them were of animals! Now of course you don’t have to be that extreme but I would definitely encourage you to research the process and to examine yourself. The more comfortable (and knowledgeable) you are with your breasts the easier it will be learning how to breastfeed, especially from other people.

And speaking of other people,
Read blogs and talk to other women with experience.

Don’t get me wrong, “professional” opinions are okay but you want to get advice from people who are actually experiencing (or have experienced) what you will be. No shade but I prefer someone who could offer me a little more than book reports and word of mouth. But to each her own. If you are the type to get peace of mind from consulting with professionals, just make sure you’re getting help from EXPERIENCED doctors or nurses who are (or at least want to be!) mothers. And if you have friends or family members who have breastfed then that’s even better. I didn’t have anyone so I asked to have a lactation consultant come and talk to me during our stay at the hospital. She was very helpful. She helped me get through the first couple of days because the nurses were making my experience VERY stressful. Which leads me into the next tip..

Relax and get to know your OWN baby. Always remember that everything isn’t for everybody.

Like I mentioned before, researching is a good thing but setting laws and standards isn’t. Allow yourself time to grow. Especially at the hospital. Your baby is not only new to breastfeeding but to BREATHING in general. Be patient and gentle. Don’t let anyone, not even the doctors ruin  your experience.  For what it’s worth, a lot of the videos I watched on latching were useless. At least for me and my baby.  And that’s the thing, you’ll learn what works best for you and your baby. Each and every family is different so don’t take everything to heart.

And speaking of the heart, Guard it!

We live in a very perverted generation where women think there’s strength in being masculine. Embrace your true femininity. There is nothing more beautiful than a submissive wife and selfless mother. You have to be encouraged because the majority of women will have that “I don’t know how you do it” attitude. Especially selfish mothers or women without children! Don’t be afraid to stand your ground. Even if that means telling your husband that you don’t want any visitors until you guys figure some things out.

Get a manual breast pump

This will be your best friend. Especially if you have a fast let down or an over supply of milk like I did. Trust me,  get one while you’re pregnant and bring it to the hospital with you. And while you’re at it,  grab a few nipple shields too!

IMG_0938

The Lactation consultant at the hospital gave me this manual breast pump and some nipple shields. To this day, I have only used this pump. She doesn’t know how much of a blessing she has been!

Don’t buy into the hype

Now I have to throw this out there because there is nothing wrong with formula feeding! I didn’t breastfeed any of my older children and you wouldn’t know the difference (as far as development goes). Going forward my husband and I just decided to breastfeed because it’s natural and I am embracing godly femininity. Yes, I know that the food industry isn’t trust worthy but what I’m saying is, is just feed the baby.  Don’t let pride and/or idolatry creep up in it.

And last but not least, don’t give up! Just pray.

I’ve noticed that a lot of the things I learned in the beginning were not even applicable until I was about 3 or 4 months in. That’s why we’re repeatedly told not to give up. Especially not within the first 3 months. It really does get easier. I wanted to give up SO many times. So ultimately, my advice to you would be not to give up when it gets tough, just PRAY! That is what has helped me the most.  At the end of the day, no one can help you more with this than God. And not only because He’s GOD but because breastfeeding was all His idea!! He strategically designed our bodies to give (and to receive) His provision. So ask Him to help you and your baby do all that He had originally intended.

So yeah,  I hope that this post helps! And I would love to hear all about your breastfeeding experiences or aspirations!

Group hug!!

Brandi

WIN_20181115_14_34_18_Pro

Me nursing Lauren❤

How to choose Modest apparel

For this is God’s will: that you become holy, that you keep away from sexual immorality, that each of you know how to possess his own body in holiness and honor, not in lustful passion like the Gentiles who do not know God. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4. NET)

If you haven’t read my post on how I dress as a Christian woman then you should also check that out because this post is just going to be about how to choose modest apparel.

Now, I know that there are a lot of “white washed” women out here but that doesn’t justify vanity or lack of discretion. Because either way,  a woman who is truly holy and God fearing will not present her body in a provocative (or worldly) manner.

Generally speaking , the outward appearance really is a reflection of the sanctification process that’s taking place within. I am a witness to this! I started dressing different because my MIND changed about what I used to believe was cute or appropriate for godly women. This is just one of the ways we are transformed by the renewing of our minds. Only then can we truly tell whether we are dressing appropriately or not.

 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. (Romans 12:1-2)

It’s like how is it that we think that we’re so set apart when we look (and behave!) just like the women of the secular world. It’s because we’re deceived! And I remember being in that place, not even considering the fact that my clothes didn’t match my profession (which was that I was a Christian woman who knew God). Looking back I can admit that I was all talk. Obviously, I did not know God or have His spirit because if I did, I wouldn’t have been so comfortable dressing raunchy and provocative.

But again, this post isn’t about the way I dress. I believe that we need to leave our own personal convictions (or decisions) out of the equation lest we cause division. Therefore, I’m just giving you some things to consider in general as you get dressed as a “Kingdom Ambassador”.

Because that’s the thing,  if anything, we are to be exalting God, not our clothing! If you are still trying to express yourself through “fashion” then you are still a little immature. And that just real.  That immodest heart (and mindset!) is all about emulating others and worshiping Self. It’s about drawing attention from men (and other women!) to your body and sexuality.  It is about trying to be beautiful and desirable when you are should be continuously dying to yourself (your will and desires). On the contrary, true Modesty is about humbling ourselves and exalting God. It’s about honoring our body (which is God’s temple), other people (especially other people’s marriages and children) and the scriptures. I can still be feminine without being vain or inappropriate. In fact, godly femininity doesn’t even require all of that.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)

If I really want to dress Modesty then the Bible tells me exactly how to do that. We are even told what to “put on” spiritually!

  • This I say, therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles walk, in the futility of their mind, having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart; who, being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness. But you have not so learned Christ, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness. (Ephesians 4:17-20)
  • Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy.  But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts. (Romans 13:13-14)
  • Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.  (Colossians 3:12-14)

So after we start there, we can began to assess whether or not our physical clothing is appropriate.  You may even find yourself  shopping at different places then you would normally. I am 5’8 and I weight about 135 pounds so right now, in the current state of this world, the only place I can find modest apparel for my body type is at the goodwill.

Eventually I plan on making my own clothes but for now this is where I shop and STILL I have to check myself. When choosing the right apparel it can be very helpful to ask yourself things like:

Why do I like this shirt, skirt or dress (etc.)?

Am I at peace with it or am I indecisive?

Does this cost too much?

Do I find self worth or value in designer items? Do labels puff me up? Would I feel some type of way wearing cheap or resale clothes?

What type of people usually wear these prints or trends (etc)? Am I emulating celebrities or will I be associated with ungodly groups of people?

Am I seeking the admiration or approval of men (and women!) or am I seeking the approval of God?

Do (or will) I look like I have an intimate relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ wearing this or would people assume that I am living the American dream or the night life?

Is this clothing too tight or see through in the natural light??

Are areas close to my private parts (thighs, stomach, cleavage etc.) exposed? Are my private areas showing? Would they show if I  bend/ lean over,  sit down, reach up etc.??

Do I feel sexy or fierce wearing this? Do I feel socially (economically) puffed up wearing this?

Do I get fashion inspiration from celebrities or from other people on social media who don’t know or love God?

These are just some things to think about. We should be asking ourselves these kinds of questions because not only are we to abstain from the appearance of evil but because Modesty is an attitude. So is my attitude concerning the way I dress selfish and prideful? or am I thinking of others?? And if the process has just begun, am I willing to let go of all my favorite clothes that do not glorify God because I love Him more than anything and I understand that I am not my own!?

What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

So, now that we know that we are to dress with humility in a respectable manner (not being inconsiderate and/or flashy), we do not seek to draw attention to ourselves knowing that our true beauty and identity comes from our godly character in Christ Jesus.

♥♥

Much love,

Brandi

20190602_125717_HDR