The Mission of Motherhood book review

Let me just start by saying that as a mother, reading edifying books is one of the ways that I refresh myself . So when Sally Clarkson began to wrap up her message explaining how a mother whose well is dry can not continue to give to others without cratering, I was beyond convinced that this book is a treasure.

See Sally Clarkson has been more than a mentor to me .  She has served as THE mother of mothers to us in The Mission of Motherhood although she would probably disagree.

I am not the perfect mother but my vision and understanding of God’s design and intentions gives me a standard of maturing to grow toward.

-Sally Clarkson, The Mission of Motherhood

I have never read a book on motherhood that unapologetically addressed the Mother’s role in the home.  This book is filled with so much perspective and truth, which is so supportive and encouraging to those of us trying to be godly mothers in this satanic world. The book is filled with her (and her children’s) very own personal stories and testimonies. But not in a braggadocios way because ain’t nobody got time for that! But seriously, the personal stories and analogies are very thought provoking and bring much clarity.

One of the many things I took away from this book was the fact that I need to lighten up.  The behaviors I find irritating or unsettling in my children are normal, which confirmed my recent convictions to just allow my children to be children. I can be a bit of a drill sergeant and not only does that hinder my relationship with my children but more importantly, their relationship with God. And concerning that, I was reminded of how our emotions and attitudes influence the spirits of our children.  And by no means is that an excuse to let our children be manipulative (or bound with folly!), it’s just a sobering reality that should keep us on our knees. Which is another thing that I loved about this book. Sally talks about motherhood being a partnership with God. Which is true. Not only have we been blessed to assist God in bringing human life into this world but we’ve been given the noble task of nurturing their precious souls unto the Lord. NOTHING in the workplace can compete with that—Truly impacting generations for the better and ushering people into the kingdom. So, if you have a desire to be a good (godly) mother please check out this book because this review doesn’t do it any justice!

Group hug♥
Brandi

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When staying home becomes boring and/or stressful

Homemaking is a blessing but it can be challenging so I want to briefly share 5 things that I believe can help combat that burnout.

#1 Staying connected

Community is everything! Even if it’s just chatting online with bloggers and YouTubers. Surrounding ourselves with other homemakers keeps us focused on what it true and important. You are not alone. We are each other’s motivation and inspiration.

#2 Getting rest

Whatever that looks like for you. It could be reading, working on a hobby or literally taking naps.  The point is, we have to rest on the regular and being at home gives us the liberty to do so.

#3 Eating well

To piggy back on #2, whole foods and good sleep are necessary. They go hand in hand. Try meal prepping the things you like (so all you have to do is grab and go).  We can not afford to skip out on what gives us energy.

#4 Getting dressed

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Hanging out in my pajamas!

To be honest,  this is something that I am still working on. Sometimes I don’t even get dressed at all especially if I don’t have any errands to run. But we all know that we feel better when we look better. So perhaps we’re only feeling as crazy as we look. For some, getting dressed is a must. And I’m sure that they’re much more productive (and attractive to their husbands).

#5 Having an agenda

Speaking of being productive, we all know that a day started without a plan will most likely be wasted. So if you are an inconsistent person, start by writing down the tasks that you would like to accomplish within that week. As long as you’re getting stuff done you don’t need an overwhelming detailed daily planner or calendar.

So, I hope that these tips help. I’m praying for you all because I know that everyone’s situations and families are different.

With much love,

Brandi

Strawberry Chia Jam recipe

As I transition into a more “homesteadish” lifestyle, there are some things including fruit preserves that I have decided to stop buying. This recipe is not only good (and easy!) but it’s guilt free! So I hope that you try it and if you do let me know what you think.

 

Ingredients

2 cups chopped strawberries (or mixed berries)
1/2 cup honey
3 Tbsp chia seeds
2 Tbsp lemon juice

Directions

Heat the berries in a medium sized saucepan over medium-high heat stirring occasionally until the berries begin to caramelize and get all syrupy (about 10 minutes). Mash the strawberries with a potato masher to your desired consistency (I like chunks of fruit in mine).

Turn the heat off and move the saucepan to another burner then pour in the lemon juice and the honey (feel free to add more honey to your liking). Now, stir in the chia seeds and allow the mixture to cool down completely before canning.

This recipe makes about 10 ounces (a little over a cup) which will last my family about a week but you can definitely store it in the refrigerator for up to a month. Also, this jam will not thicken as much as those with pectin (and loads of refined sugars!) would but the chia seeds will swell and thicken it up good enough. Yum (just thinking about it). Don’t believe me just ask my son!

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(My son)

Being a homemaker: Why I quit my job to stay home full-time

“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”(Proverbs 31:27)

In a generation where being a “boss” chick takes precedence over assisting your husband and raising children, it’s no surprise that quitting my job to stay home full-time seemed to be anything but noble.

I remember old friends and family members being a bit concerned because financially speaking, we shouldn’t have been able to make that move. But that’s the thing, I didn’t become a stay at home wife or a homeschooling mom to try and keep up with the Joneses. My husband and I understood the seriousness of fostering a godly family.

We knew that there was no way for me to truly be attentive to my husband (or available for my children) working a full time job with crazy retail hours. And for me, the solution wasn’t to just get another job because taking a step down (or working part-time) in some ways still meant neglecting my God-given responsibilities.

You see homemaking is so much more than just lounging around in your pajamas all day long, and it is certainly more than just cooking and cleaning or doing NEVER ENDING laundry. So I want to share what it is that I actually do at home, and I hope in the midst to encourage some of you who are either new to homemaking or weary in well doing.

So first things first, being suitable for my husband.

Now I married a man who loves God and is seeking His kingdom and His righteousness, so that means that he is often a target for hatred and ridicule. My job is to not only BE but to create (and maintain!) a peaceful, loving and godly place for him to rest and to regroup after a hard exhausting day.

Now I don’t know about you but there is NO peace or love or gentleness or GOODNESS in and of myself. I get these qualities from walking very closely with the Lord. If I were still out  working some stressful and unfulfilling (or exciting and “fulfilling”) job, I wouldn’t have the time, energy or even the desire to spend my extra time praying and reading the Bible or marriage blogs! And I’m just being honest. Staying home allows me to go as deep as I want with the Lord, without any vain distractions or divided loyalty between him and work . The Lord is my foundation. So first of all, I spend my days at home seeking him. THEN I can begin to built or “make” my marriage pleasant with a renewed mind and with fruits of the Spirit.

“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” (Proverbs 14:1)

Discipling my children

Before I got married I was a single (and working!) mother of 3 children, so I understand that you have to do the best that you can do. But now that I am married with a working husband there is no need for me to work or to desperately allow my children to be raised by daycare providers and teachers unbelievers.

This world is blatantly pushing Satan’s agenda and I would be a fool to just volunteer my children over to the system. God has given us parents such an awesome (but big and serious!) responsibility to teach our children about Him and His ways.

It’s like we’re always looking for some grand opportunity to witness to somebody as we overlook our very own children who also need to hear AND SEE the gospel. And by no means does this mean that my children are perfect (or exempt from anything) but that’s okay because I’m not raising them upright for my own pride or glory anyway.

This life is not a game. And even though ultimately they have to live their own, my job as a parent is to lead them (by example!) onto the right path in hopes that they’ll go on to follow Jesus.

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

So yeah, this is why I quit my job to stay home full-time. And what a blessing it is to be able to commit like this!

Much love,
Brandi

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