The Mission of Motherhood book review

Let me just start by saying that as a mother, reading edifying books is one of the ways that I refresh myself . So when Sally Clarkson began to wrap up her message explaining how a mother whose well is dry can not continue to give to others without cratering, I was beyond convinced that this book is a treasure.

See Sally Clarkson has been more than a mentor to me .  She has served as THE mother of mothers to us in The Mission of Motherhood although she would probably disagree.

I am not the perfect mother but my vision and understanding of God’s design and intentions gives me a standard of maturing to grow toward.

-Sally Clarkson, The Mission of Motherhood

I have never read a book on motherhood that unapologetically addressed the Mother’s role in the home.  This book is filled with so much perspective and truth, which is so supportive and encouraging to those of us trying to be godly mothers in this satanic world. The book is filled with her (and her children’s) very own personal stories and testimonies. But not in a braggadocios way because ain’t nobody got time for that! But seriously, the personal stories and analogies are very thought provoking and bring much clarity.

One of the many things I took away from this book was the fact that I need to lighten up.  The behaviors I find irritating or unsettling in my children are normal, which confirmed my recent convictions to just allow my children to be children. I can be a bit of a drill sergeant and not only does that hinder my relationship with my children but more importantly, their relationship with God. And concerning that, I was reminded of how our emotions and attitudes influence the spirits of our children.  And by no means is that an excuse to let our children be manipulative (or bound with folly!), it’s just a sobering reality that should keep us on our knees. Which is another thing that I loved about this book. Sally talks about motherhood being a partnership with God. Which is true. Not only have we been blessed to assist God in bringing human life into this world but we’ve been given the noble task of nurturing their precious souls unto the Lord. NOTHING in the workplace can compete with that—Truly impacting generations for the better and ushering people into the kingdom. So, if you have a desire to be a good (godly) mother please check out this book because this review doesn’t do it any justice!

Group hug♥
Brandi

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The Excellent Wife book review

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones. (Proverbs 12:4)

So I stumbled across this book at my local library, and I STILL can not believe how much it has impacted me. Now I don’t know much about the author, Martha Peace so I can’t really endorse her (or her trinitarian views) but that doesn’t take away from the fact that this book is the truth!  Seriously, it is one of the best books I’ve ever read.

Through The Excellent Wife, Martha Peace seems to be the epitome of the Titus 2 woman by teaching us younger women EVERYTHING we need to learn to mature into godly women.

The wise counsel in this book definitely lives up to it’s sub title (“A Biblical Perspective”) because with scripture, Martha proves what God requires of Christian wives. And even though the standards are high, Martha demonstrates how with and by the grace of God they are attainable.

I have a notebook full of things I took away from this book because she addresses everything from idols in our hearts to sinful (but understandably painful) emotions that are enslaving us. One of the many things I loved about this book was how it mainly focuses on obeying the Lord’s commands which makes it applicable to any area of our lives. So with that being said,  I would just recommend this book to women in general. But as a wife, the most valuable part of the book (to me) was on respecting our husbands unconditionally. The advice is tried and true. And I say that because my own husband immediately noticed (and received) my improvements.

So, if you’re working on becoming a better wife, check out this book it’s an “excellent” guide.

Much love, Brandi

 

Order The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace here

The Peaceful Mom book review

A fun fact about me is that I LOVE TO READ. I am always reading something! So with that being said, I thought that I would start sharing with you all what books I am currently reading. Right now, I have about 3 books in rotation but before I finish any of them I want to take a minute to share my thoughts on a book that I just finished: The Peaceful Mom by April Cassidy

Quick disclosure: I will only be reviewing books that in my opinion are worth reading. I am not going to waste my time (or yours!) reading (or mentioning) random books that aren’t edifying. So basically, you can assume that every book I review, I am recommending.

Just thought I’d throw that out there..

But anyway, many of you may already be familiar with April Cassidy, The Peaceful Wife. And if you aren’t, here is a link to her blog (you’ll want to thank me later but all glory belongs to God!). I have been following her ministry for about 3 years now and she has inspired me to humble myself as a woman and to become truly anchored in Christ.

When she shared that she was finishing up The Peaceful Mom, I was beyond excited because I often feel like I am failing in that area. And to be honest,  I wasn’t that interested in reading her first book The Peaceful Wife because I assumed that whatever she was talking about would already be covered on the blog. But after reading this,  I don’t even care. I’m going to read it because now i’m wondering what other provision God has provided through it for my marriage.

But that’s another post for another day.  I’ll be sure to let you know but for now here are my thoughts on The Peaceful Mom!

First things first. This is not your typical (and carnal!) “How To”  be a better mom book. This book focuses more on building your relationship with God than with your children (which I love!).

In the Peaceful Mom, April walks us through (with scripture!) correcting our negative beliefs, thoughts and emotions towards God, ourselves and toward other people (especially our children). She also teaches (or reminds) us that true peace can only be found in right standing with Jesus.

Now like I mentioned before,  I wanted to read this book because I have been all over the place emotionally as a mother. And I’m also a step mother so I want to make sure to have a healthy and impartial relationship with my step daughter.

What I like about this book is that it features some of her own personal stories as well as testimonies from other men and women, which is encouraging because it highlights how even though our circumstances are different we all have struggles (and are overcoming!). Another thing I liked was how throughout the entire book she continually addresses sin and points us back to Jesus. That is also why I appreciate her blogs.  April Cassidy know she be preaching the gospel!

But ultimately,  what I took away from this book was, and I quote, “A peaceful mom knows God intimately and follows him wholeheartedly.” After reading The Peaceful Mom I not only found myself coming to repentance, but I also found myself respecting my husband as a parent AND my children. Obviously I recommend this book. It is a must read (even if you are a single woman without a husband or children). I will definitely be revisiting this book because it is full of prayer and wisdom.

So there it is! I hope that you guys enjoyed this book review because like I said, I’ll be doing them quite often. Also, I would love to hear about what edifying books you’ve been reading so please share them with me in the comment section! Much love!!

Your sister,
Brandi

Don’t forget to visit April Cassidy’s blog:
Peaceful Wife
Peaceful Single girl

When your children aren’t interested in the Lord

 

It can be frustrating, and ultimately heartbreaking when your children seem to have no genuine interest or affection for the Lord. This is something that I have been experiencing lately. All of my kids believe in God but one of them in particular just isn’t that enthusiastic about living a true Christian lifestyle. So I thought that I would share with you all how I’m able to be at peace with it all.

Now first of all, I just want to address the fact that we are NOT exempt from having unbelieving children. There were plenty of godly people in the Bible with perverse offspring . I know we like to believe that out of all these people in the world, that our entire families are going to be part of that FEW saved by the Lord.  But don’t be naive, Jesus himself told us that households will be divided so it would be wise to take in the full counsel of the Word and let the scriptures sober us.

“Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” (Matthew 10:34-37)

Now does this mean that we can or should just give up hope and throw our children over to the wolves ? Of Course not. Especially if you have young children like mine who need to be stewarded. What this means is that we are not to love our families more than we love God because if they really do decide to reject Him we’ll either try to override their free will or shrink back in fear and compromise (usually by tolerating their blasphemy and/or worldliness). And I’m not gone lie, whenever any of my kids start acting all nonchalant about the things of God naturally I just want to freak out. But as I really begin to pray for them that burden I think I have to carry as a parent is lifted.

“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)

And that’s the thing, I can have peace knowing that the battle is truly not mine to fight. My job is to simply pray without ceasing and to live out the gospel (and not because my children are watching but because I fear God and because Jesus is the Lord of my life). That is what’s important because if we can just be honest with ourselves, we are probably the main reason why our children aren’t interested. Maybe you came to the Lord when you were older so your children are already grown. Or maybe you were just a little too zealous like I was and repelled them off with MANY words! See I used to think that I was the holy Spirit and that it was my job to convict my children of their sins and to reveal all kinds of “truth” to them. But I must’ve forgotten that I don’t have any power. I couldn’t even change myself! So I just needed to BACK OFF and let GOD be God.

But anyway, ALL OF THAT just to say that at the end of the day all we can do is work out our OWN salvation with fear and trembling and pray that they’ll do the same.

Group hug♥

Brandi

Being a homemaker: Why I quit my job to stay home full-time

“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”(Proverbs 31:27)

In a generation where being a “boss” chick takes precedence over assisting your husband and raising children, it’s no surprise that quitting my job to stay home full-time seemed to be anything but noble.

I remember old friends and family members being a bit concerned because financially speaking, we shouldn’t have been able to make that move. But that’s the thing, I didn’t become a stay at home wife or a homeschooling mom to try and keep up with the Joneses. My husband and I understood the seriousness of fostering a godly family.

We knew that there was no way for me to truly be attentive to my husband (or available for my children) working a full time job with crazy retail hours. And for me, the solution wasn’t to just get another job because taking a step down (or working part-time) in some ways still meant neglecting my God-given responsibilities.

You see homemaking is so much more than just lounging around in your pajamas all day long, and it is certainly more than just cooking and cleaning or doing NEVER ENDING laundry. So I want to share what it is that I actually do at home, and I hope in the midst to encourage some of you who are either new to homemaking or weary in well doing.

So first things first, being suitable for my husband.

Now I married a man who loves God and is seeking His kingdom and His righteousness, so that means that he is often a target for hatred and ridicule. My job is to not only BE but to create (and maintain!) a peaceful, loving and godly place for him to rest and to regroup after a hard exhausting day.

Now I don’t know about you but there is NO peace or love or gentleness or GOODNESS in and of myself. I get these qualities from walking very closely with the Lord. If I were still out  working some stressful and unfulfilling (or exciting and “fulfilling”) job, I wouldn’t have the time, energy or even the desire to spend my extra time praying and reading the Bible or marriage blogs! And I’m just being honest. Staying home allows me to go as deep as I want with the Lord, without any vain distractions or divided loyalty between him and work . The Lord is my foundation. So first of all, I spend my days at home seeking him. THEN I can begin to built or “make” my marriage pleasant with a renewed mind and with fruits of the Spirit.

“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” (Proverbs 14:1)

Discipling my children

Before I got married I was a single (and working!) mother of 3 children, so I understand that you have to do the best that you can do. But now that I am married with a working husband there is no need for me to work or to desperately allow my children to be raised by daycare providers and teachers unbelievers.

This world is blatantly pushing Satan’s agenda and I would be a fool to just volunteer my children over to the system. God has given us parents such an awesome (but big and serious!) responsibility to teach our children about Him and His ways.

It’s like we’re always looking for some grand opportunity to witness to somebody as we overlook our very own children who also need to hear AND SEE the gospel. And by no means does this mean that my children are perfect (or exempt from anything) but that’s okay because I’m not raising them upright for my own pride or glory anyway.

This life is not a game. And even though ultimately they have to live their own, my job as a parent is to lead them (by example!) onto the right path in hopes that they’ll go on to follow Jesus.

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

So yeah, this is why I quit my job to stay home full-time. And what a blessing it is to be able to commit like this!

Much love,
Brandi

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