Marriage and family, Motherhood, Prayer and fasting

When your children aren’t interested in the Lord

 

 

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Me and my babies!

It can be frustrating, and ultimately heartbreaking when your children seem to have no genuine interest or affection for the Lord. This is something that I have been experiencing lately. All of my kids believe in God but one of them in particular just isn’t that enthusiastic about living a true Christian lifestyle. So I thought that I would share with you all how I’m able to be at peace with it all.

Now first of all, I just want to address the fact that we are NOT exempt from having unbelieving children. There were plenty of godly people in the Bible with perverse offspring . I know we like to believe that out of all these people in the world, that our entire families are going to be part of that FEW saved by the Lord.  But don’t be naive, Jesus himself told us that households will be divided so it would be wise to take in the full counsel of the Word and let the scriptures sober us.

Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.

(Matthew 10:34-37)

Now does this mean that we can or should just give up hope and throw our children over to the wolves ? Of Course not. Especially if you have young children like mine who need to be stewarded. What this means is that we are not to love our families more than we love God because if they really do decide to reject Him we’ll either try to override their free will or shrink back in fear and compromise (usually by tolerating their blasphemy and/or worldliness).

And I’m not gone lie, whenever any of my kids start acting all nonchalant about the things of God naturally I just want to freak out. But as I really begin to pray for them that burden I think I have to carry as a parent is lifted.

Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus

(Philippians 4:6-7)

And that’s the thing, I can have peace knowing that the battle is truly not mine to fight. My job is to simply pray without ceasing and to live out the gospel (and not because my children are watching but because I fear God and because Jesus is the Lord of my life). That is what’s important because if we can just be honest with ourselves, we are probably the main reason why our children aren’t interested. Maybe you came to the Lord when you were older so your children are already grown. Or maybe you were just a little too zealous like I was and repelled them off with MANY words! See I used to think that I was the holy Spirit and that it was my job to convict my children of their sins and to reveal all kinds of “truth” to them. But I must’ve forgotten that I don’t have any power. I couldn’t even change myself! So I just needed to BACK OFF and let GOD be God.

But anyway, ALL OF THAT just to say that at the end of the day all we can do is work out our OWN salvation with fear and trembling and pray that they’ll do the same.

Group hug♥

Brandi

Biblical womanhood, Christian Headcovering, Prayer and fasting

Being Humbled: My Head covering experience

Funny how we’ll jump head first (no pun intended) into anything that this world suggests but when it comes to this bible we claim to believe, every little thing is questioned.

 Now even though I am not here to debate head coverings because the scriptures are very clear on whether or not Christian women should cover their heads..

But if anyone wants to argue about this, I simply say that we have no other custom than this, and neither do God’s other churches. 

1 Corinthians 11:16

I just want to encourage my sisters who want to grow in the Lord to learn how to submit to something other than their feelings.

The truth is, is that only a woman who is ignorant and carnal or vain would have a problem covering her head in public when its time to pray because we sure don’t have a problem tying our hair up in scarves to make fashion statements! 

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(I’ll use myself as an example!)

I started covering my head about a year ago but to be honest, it was mainly because I had cut all of my damaged hair off. I thought that my intentions were pure but as my hair grew, my confidence too and my true motives were exposed.

Now even though my head covering journey started off completely in vain, I have grown from covering my head in so many ways.

First of all, it is humbling.

 Like I said, wearing a head covering quickly exposed the pride and vanity in my heart. And even though a woman choosing to shave her head is shameful I believe that God allowed it to bring me low. It forced me to deal with my insecurities and now I am starting to embrace myself without validation from other people. 

Wearing a head covering has also been a blessing to my marriage. 

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Through it the holy Spirit has taught me so much about submission and my position as a woman. Not only have I become passionate about honoring men and their GOD GIVEN authority over women, but I have learned how to “help” instead of hindering them with my physical appearance.

I am softer (as in gentle) and quieter than i’ve ever been before and even though meekness is generally frowned upon, it is admirable to God.

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;  While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

1 Peter 3:1-4

Now as far as my prayer life goes, all I know is that I have had a desire to fast and pray like never before but there are some amazing testimonies out there from women who can confirm becoming more effective concerning spiritual warfare.

would love to hear your stories so please share and may the Lord bless you all in pursuing HIS will♥

Your sister,

Brandi