She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
In a generation where being a “boss” chick takes precedence over assisting your husband and raising children, it’s no surprise that quitting my job to stay home full-time seemed to be anything but noble.
I remember old friends and family members being a bit concerned because financially speaking, we shouldn’t have been able to make that move. But that’s the thing, I didn’t become a stay at home wife or a homeschooling mom to try and keep up with the Joneses. My husband and I understood the seriousness of fostering a godly family.
We knew that there was no way for me to truly be attentive to my husband (or available for my children) working a full time job with crazy retail hours. And for me, the solution wasn’t to just get another job because taking a step down (or working part-time) in some ways still meant neglecting my God-given responsibilities.
You see homemaking is so much more than just lounging around in your pajamas all day long, and it is certainly more than just cooking and cleaning or doing NEVER ENDING laundry. So I want to share what it is that I actually do at home, and I hope in the midst to encourage some of you who are either new to homemaking or weary in well doing.
So first things first, being suitable for my husband.
Now I married a man who loves God and is seeking His kingdom and His righteousness, so that means that he is often a target for hatred and ridicule. My job is to not only BE but to create (and maintain!) a peaceful, loving and godly place for him to rest and to regroup after a hard exhausting day.
Now I don’t know about you but there is NO peace or love or gentleness or GOODNESS in and of myself. I get these qualities from walking very closely with the Lord. If I were still out working some stressful and unfulfilling (or exciting and “fulfilling”) job, I wouldn’t have the time, energy or even the desire to spend my extra time praying and reading the Bible or marriage blogs! And I’m just being honest. Staying home allows me to go as deep as I want with the Lord, without any vain distractions or divided loyalty between him and work . The Lord is my foundation. So first of all, I spend my days at home seeking him. THEN I can begin to built or “make” my marriage pleasant with a renewed mind and with fruits of the Spirit.
Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Discipling my children
Before I got married I was a single (and working!) mother of 3 children, so I understand that you have to do the best that you can do. But now that I am married with a working husband there is no need for me to work or to desperately allow my children to be raised by
daycare providers and teachers unbelievers.
This world is blatantly pushing Satan’s agenda and I would be a fool to just volunteer my children over to the system. God has given us parents such an awesome (but big and serious!) responsibility to teach our children about Him and His ways.
It’s like we’re always looking for some grand opportunity to witness to somebody as we overlook our very own children who also need to hear AND SEE the gospel. And by no means does this mean that my children are perfect (or exempt from anything) but that’s okay because I’m not raising them upright for my own pride or glory anyway.
This life is not a game. And even though ultimately they have to live their own, my job as a parent is to lead them (by example!) onto the right path in hopes that they’ll go on to follow Jesus.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
So yeah, this is why I quit my job to stay home full-time. And what a blessing it is my sisters to be able to commit like this!