Being a Joyful Homemaker

Let me just start off by saying that I LOVE being a wife. I LOVE being a mother, and I am VERY passionate about Homemaking. But the truth is.. I am NOT always “happy”! It’s like I love serving my little family but sometimes I find myself irritable (impatient), frustrated and just flat out overwhelmed. It’s easy to get lost in the day to day routines but we have to keep our eyes on Jesus. Because when we begin to lose sight of why we’re truly doing this, our hearts will become achy and sinful. So, with all that being said, I just want to share a few things that I do in order to remain joyful.

1. I work wholeheartedly as unto the Lord.

Whatever you do [whatever your task may be], work from the soul [that is, put in your very best effort], as [something done] for the Lord and not for men, knowing [with all certainty] that it is from the Lord [not from men] that you will receive the inheritance which is your [greatest] reward. It is the Lord Christ whom you [actually] serve. For he who does wrong will be punished for his wrongdoing, and [with God] there is no partiality [no special treatment based on a person’s position in life].” (Colossians 3:23-25, AMP)

In a previous post I mentioned how the heart of Homemaking was God’s. And it’s true, because before I came to the Lord my heart was in something else (work!). And yes, there are a lot stay at home wives and mothers of the world but unless we’re truly serving the Lord our motives stem from pride and/or idolatry. So anyway, whenever I find myself in a funk or feeling worthless, I just remind myself that being a Homemaker is God’s will.  The joy of the Lord is truly my strength because at the end of the day, I just want to be acceptable and pleasing to Him.

2. I guard my heart.

That means I’ll cut off anything (or anyone!) that disrupts my peace. And I’m very cautious of social media. I used to be very double minded. I used to covet and fret over evil doers. So trust me, if you’re sitting around watching worldly women build their empires, you’re asking for it. You need to unfollow these unbelievers (immediately!) and start “following” Jesus!

3. I count (and recount!) my blessings.

Sometimes I just look around my house and thank God for a bunch of healthy, laughing children and a fine man that loves me and Him. I remember praying for the things that I despise (or take for granted) now. So learn to live in the moment. Gratefulness combats comparison and discontentment.

I could go on but I want to prove everything I suggest in my own life first. So, I hope that you take these things into consideration and stop letting the world steal your peace and joy in Homemaking.

Much love,

Brandi Collins

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If you’re interested, I also blogged on what to do when staying home becomes boring and/or stressful!

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The Heart of Homemaking

So I just want to take a minute to encourage those of you who also stay home because I know what it’s like to get weary in well doing. When we’re so caught up in the mundane things, it’s easy to lose sight of what we’re truly doing. There have been plenty of times that I’ve felt like my life had no value because I couldn’t see how cooking and cleaning (and decorating my house!) bared any fruit for the kingdom. But I’m here to remind you that we as wives and mothers (or just women in general), we may be the heart of the home but the heart of Homemaking is God’s. Yes, homemaking is His desire for us because if we can just be honest, our desires are (or were) to be out in this world making a name for ourselves. But contrary to what society may believe, it is a GREAT work raising arrows and creating an environment that fosters godliness.

Don’t let the world (or your own carnal mind!) corrupt your perspective on Homemaking. Remember that this world despises Jesus Christ, men and apparently children (with all of this abortion stuff)! When we’re abiding in the Lord our presence is light in the darkness and our homes can be a peaceful place in the chaos. In addition, Homemaking has eternal value. So just keep working wholeheartedly as unto the Lord unnoticed (and sometimes even unappreciated!) knowing that your reward will be in heaven..

You are SO precious girl! May the Lord preserve your heart and mind in Jesus Christ.

Your sister,

Brandi Collins

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Here’s to cleaning the kitchen, again.

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Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.” (Proverbs 31:10-31)

When staying home becomes boring and/or stressful

Homemaking is a blessing but it can be challenging so I want to briefly share 5 things that I believe can help combat that burnout.

#1 Staying connected

Community is everything! Even if it’s just chatting online with bloggers and YouTubers. Surrounding ourselves with other homemakers keeps us focused on what it true and important. You are not alone. We are each other’s motivation and inspiration.

#2 Getting rest

Whatever that looks like for you. It could be reading, working on a hobby or literally taking naps.  The point is, we have to rest on the regular and being at home gives us the liberty to do so.

#3 Eating well

To piggy back on #2, whole foods and good sleep are necessary. They go hand in hand. Try meal prepping the things you like (so all you have to do is grab and go).  We can not afford to skip out on what gives us energy.

#4 Getting dressed

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Hanging out in my pajamas!

To be honest,  this is something that I am still working on. Sometimes I don’t even get dressed at all especially if I don’t have any errands to run. But we all know that we feel better when we look better. So perhaps we’re only feeling as crazy as we look. For some, getting dressed is a must. And I’m sure that they’re much more productive (and attractive to their husbands).

#5 Having an agenda

Speaking of being productive, we all know that a day started without a plan will most likely be wasted. So if you are an inconsistent person, start by writing down the tasks that you would like to accomplish within that week. As long as you’re getting stuff done you don’t need an overwhelming detailed daily planner or calendar.

So, I hope that these tips help. I’m praying for you all because I know that everyone’s situations and families are different.

With much love,

Brandi

Being a homemaker: Why I quit my job to stay home full-time

“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”(Proverbs 31:27)

In a generation where being a “boss” chick takes precedence over assisting your husband and raising children, it’s no surprise that quitting my job to stay home full-time seemed to be anything but noble.

I remember old friends and family members being a bit concerned because financially speaking, we shouldn’t have been able to make that move. But that’s the thing, I didn’t become a stay at home wife or a homeschooling mom to try and keep up with the Joneses. My husband and I understood the seriousness of fostering a godly family.

We knew that there was no way for me to truly be attentive to my husband (or available for my children) working a full time job with crazy retail hours. And for me, the solution wasn’t to just get another job because taking a step down (or working part-time) in some ways still meant neglecting my God-given responsibilities.

You see homemaking is so much more than just lounging around in your pajamas all day long, and it is certainly more than just cooking and cleaning or doing NEVER ENDING laundry. So I want to share what it is that I actually do at home, and I hope in the midst to encourage some of you who are either new to homemaking or weary in well doing.

So first things first, being suitable for the kingdom and for my husband.

Now I married a man who loves God and is seeking His kingdom and His righteousness, so that means that he is often a target for hatred and ridicule. My job is to not only BE but to create (and maintain!) a peaceful, loving and godly place for him to rest and to regroup after a hard exhausting day.

Now I don’t know about you but there is NO peace or love or gentleness or GOODNESS in and of myself. I get these qualities from walking very closely with the Lord. If I were still out  working some stressful and unfulfilling (or exciting and “fulfilling”) job, I wouldn’t have the time, energy or even the desire to spend my extra time praying and reading the Bible or marriage blogs. And I’m just being honest! Staying home allows me to go as deep as I want with the Lord, without any vain distractions or divided loyalty between Him and work . The Lord is my foundation. So first of all, I spend my days at home seeking Him and His ways. THEN I can begin to built or “make” my life and marriage pleasant with a renewed mind and with fruits of the Spirit.

“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” (Proverbs 14:1)

Discipling my children

Before I got married I was a single (and working!) mother of 3 children, so I understand that you have to do the best that you can do. But now that I am married with a working husband there is no need for me to work or to desperately allow my children to be raised by daycare providers and teachers unbelievers.

This world is blatantly pushing Satan’s agenda and I would be a fool to just volunteer my children over to the system. Mothers have been given such a big and awesome responsibility to primarily raise the children upright in the fear and admonition of the Lord. And I don’t care what the world says,  I know from experience that you can NOT do that wholeheartedly at work.

It’s like we’re always looking for some grand opportunity to witness to somebody as we overlook our very own children who also need to hear AND SEE the gospel. And by no means does this mean that my children are perfect (or exempt from anything) but that’s okay because I’m not raising them upright for my own pride or glory anyway.

This life is not a game. And even though ultimately they have to live their own, my job as a parent is to lead them (by example!) onto the right path in hopes that they’ll go on to follow Jesus.

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

So yeah, basically, that is why I quit my job to stay home full-time. And what a blessing it is to be able to serve and to commit like this!

Much love,
Brandi