Forsaking family for Christ

“Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me. He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.” (Matthew 10:34-39)

Now I’m not going to go all in depth on this because everyone’s situations and circumstances are different but what I will do is remind you that at the end of the day, coming separate from the world includes ungodly family members. And this seems to be where a lot of us either compromise or draw the line because quite frankly, we ourselves are still worldly or we’re COWARDS and are ashamed of the gospel. And I know because this was something that I struggled with. I didn’t want to keep coming off as a “know it all” or offend. But the truth is what it is and besides, I  was sick and tired of my spirit being vexed after interacting with certain family members.

I’ve learned that family can be a MAJOR hindrance to your relationship with the Lord, especially those who claim to be Christians and/or are church goers. They may have a form of godliness but their carnal mindsets (and ungodly lifestyles!) deny the power thereof. FROM SUCH TURN AWAY! And if you want to make your close friends and family members an exception to the rules, then you have a bigger problem on your hands and it’s called idolatry.

How can two walk together lest they agree? It doesn’t matter if they’re your mother or your brothers if they don’t believe what you believe (meaning what  is taught in the Bible). As Christians we should be following the examples of Jesus Christ and he considered his family to be those who DO the will of his Father.

As Jesus was speaking to the crowd, his mother and brothers stood outside, asking to speak to him. Someone told Jesus, “Your mother and your brothers are standing outside, and they want to speak to you.” Jesus asked, “Who is my mother? Who are my brothers?” Then he pointed to his disciples and said, “Look, these are my mother and brothers. Anyone who does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother!” (Matthew 12:46-50)

So don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about leaving your family behind. Remember when Jesus told a disciple who wanted to care for his father first to let the dead bury the dead (Matthew 8:18-22). We have to leave our civilian affairs behind. Like those enlisted in the military, we belong to the kingdom of God now! Family will try to own you and demand your loyalty. Even over what is fair, and what is right or what is TRUE.

So, we have to make sure that our identity is in Jesus Christ, and not in our families or in anything else. Sever those ties!

With nothing but love, Brandi

When your children aren’t interested in the Lord

 

It can be frustrating, and ultimately heartbreaking when your children seem to have no genuine interest or affection for the Lord. This is something that I have been experiencing lately. All of my kids believe in God but one of them in particular just isn’t that enthusiastic about living a true Christian lifestyle. So I thought that I would share with you all how I’m able to be at peace with it all.

Now first of all, I just want to address the fact that we are NOT exempt from having unbelieving children. There were plenty of godly people in the Bible with perverse offspring . I know we like to believe that out of all these people in the world, that our entire families are going to be part of that FEW saved by the Lord.  But don’t be naive, Jesus himself told us that households will be divided so it would be wise to take in the full counsel of the Word and let the scriptures sober us.

“Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” (Matthew 10:34-37)

Now does this mean that we can or should just give up hope and throw our children over to the wolves ? Of Course not. Especially if you have young children like mine who need to be stewarded. What this means is that we are not to love our families more than we love God because if they really do decide to reject Him we’ll either try to override their free will or shrink back in fear and compromise (usually by tolerating their blasphemy and/or worldliness). And I’m not gone lie, whenever any of my kids start acting all nonchalant about the things of God naturally I just want to freak out. But as I really begin to pray for them that burden I think I have to carry as a parent is lifted.

“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)

And that’s the thing, I can have peace knowing that the battle is truly not mine to fight. My job is to simply pray without ceasing and to live out the gospel (and not because my children are watching but because I fear God and because Jesus is the Lord of my life). That is what’s important because if we can just be honest with ourselves, we are probably the main reason why our children aren’t interested. Maybe you came to the Lord when you were older so your children are already grown. Or maybe you were just a little too zealous like I was and repelled them off with MANY words! See I used to think that I was the holy Spirit and that it was my job to convict my children of their sins and to reveal all kinds of “truth” to them. But I must’ve forgotten that I don’t have any power. I couldn’t even change myself! So I just needed to BACK OFF and let GOD be God.

But anyway, ALL OF THAT just to say that at the end of the day all we can do is work out our OWN salvation with fear and trembling and pray that they’ll do the same.

Group hug♥

Brandi