“Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me. He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.” (Matthew 10:34-39)
Now I’m not going to go all in depth on this because everyone’s situations and circumstances are different but what I will do is remind you that at the end of the day, coming separate from the world includes ungodly family members. And this seems to be where a lot of us either compromise or draw the line because quite frankly, we ourselves are still worldly or we’re COWARDS and are ashamed of the gospel. And I know because this was something that I struggled with. I didn’t want to keep coming off as a “know it all” or offend. But the truth is what it is and besides, I was sick and tired of my spirit being vexed after interacting with certain family members.
I’ve learned that family can be a MAJOR hindrance to your relationship with the Lord, especially those who claim to be Christians and/or are church goers. They may have a form of godliness but their carnal mindsets (and ungodly lifestyles!) deny the power thereof. FROM SUCH TURN AWAY! And if you want to make your close friends and family members an exception to the rules, then you have a bigger problem on your hands and it’s called idolatry.
How can two walk together lest they agree? It doesn’t matter if they’re your mother or your brothers if they don’t believe what you believe (meaning what is taught in the Bible). As Christians we should be following the examples of Jesus Christ and he considered his family to be those who DO the will of his Father.
As Jesus was speaking to the crowd, his mother and brothers stood outside, asking to speak to him. Someone told Jesus, “Your mother and your brothers are standing outside, and they want to speak to you.” Jesus asked, “Who is my mother? Who are my brothers?” Then he pointed to his disciples and said, “Look, these are my mother and brothers. Anyone who does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother!” (Matthew 12:46-50)
So don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about leaving your family behind. Remember when Jesus told a disciple who wanted to care for his father first to let the dead bury the dead (Matthew 8:18-22). We have to leave our civilian affairs behind. Like those enlisted in the military, we belong to the kingdom of God now! Family will try to own you and demand your loyalty. Even over what is fair, and what is right or what is TRUE.
So, we have to make sure that our identity is in Jesus Christ, and not in our families or in anything else. Sever those ties!
With nothing but love, Brandi